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Im scared about having sex even though im ready!
ok sooo u seem pretty good with advice.... my boyfriend and i have been dating for over 7 months now and we are sooooo happy!!! I think we will be ready have sex sometime within our one year and i feel pretty ready. Im a little scared... and im kinda inmsecure about it though... like hes really skinny and small 5'7 and 130 pounds and i weigh around 120-140 ( not positive b/c my mom wont let me have a scale in my room from a previus time when i had an eating disorder) and im 5'4-5'5 im happy how i am but my mom keeps telling me we dont look right together and i look too fat near him, i have started to loose weight so i look more fit and im perfectly happy how i am. shes overweight and always tells me to watch it when i eat, but if im not hungry makes me eat breakfast anyway. Its really weird.... shes really mean and my BF knows about it and knows im scared about having sex b/c im scared to be naked around him and he will think im fat like my mom said, but i feel really beautiful around him. My mom doesnt want me having sex because she says if i have a future with someone else ill regret it. i honestly dont care about my future with someone else right now, he makes me so happy and tries so hard to make me feel so good about myself, (i havnt started back on my eating disorder for about six months and i struggled with this and cutting myself on and off for like 2 years) like everyone knows where going to make it... im jsut scared that maybe my mom is right that if i do have sex it wont be with the right person or that hes going to think im fat... what do u think, i know im not overweight but i feel weird being average when hes like skinny advice please??? 15/f
its even more awkward now because hes a surfer and whenever i wear a bathing suit my mom tells me i need to loose like 20 pounds or i cant go out in that bathing suit... i honestly think shes whats stopping me from having sex but he makes me happy and she doesnt so shouldnt i follow my heart and do what i want without worrying about what my mom says???
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Absolutely you should follow your heart. What your mom says amazes me. How could she call you fat and that you need to lose 20 lbs? Thats horrible. I understand the point she made that maybe he wont be the right person..but the remarks she made about how she thinks your fat is horrible. Your an average girl! Your not fat like i am..but your not a tookpick either. Dont worry about how your bf is a skinny guy. He loves you and i bet he'll love seeing you naked. Having sex is about being comfortable being naked and being positive that you want to do this. You sound like your ready..but not quite. Once your no longer scared of him seeing you naked..and once you definately know hes the one..then you'll be ready. The day you wake up saying "i dont care what my mom says..hes the right one.." then go for it.Sex isnt supposed to feel awkward. If your feeling awkward..dont do it until your confident in yourself that your going to be fine even though hes smaller than you. I think your mother is wrong for telling you your fat..thats such a confidence breaker..it upset me how she tells you your fat.. Well anyway everyone has sex at different times. I cant tell you "no wait until your 18..or until your married" because thats not realistic. Once your ready and you have the right guy, then go for it...follow your heart..and make it special if you go for it. Just remember to use protection and all that.
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