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ok i've like this guy named Matt Crockett since second grade. i sent him a secret admirer this year and he knows it's from me and i think he really likes me back. i have been having dreams about him lately and some were pleasing and some were weird. one weird one is that i was 40 and feeding a baby and came in and said hello honey. it freaked me out so mcuh i woke up.i have been having nicer dreams about him besides that one but it wasn't true.at a dance at the end of the year i want to ask him to dance with 'cause i really like him. his best friend really hates me so that is my last chance to get to know him.(there aren't many trustworthy boys at me school that are close friends with him)so please help me talk to him and ask him out or at least call him.
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I'd say your first step is to try to become friends with him. Do you have any classes with him at school? Do you pass him in the hallway? Is his locker near yours? Use any of these, or other opportunities you have to be around him, to strike up a conversation.
To talk to him- First, smile and say hi. Smiling is always inviting. Good options for conversation: weather, sports, movies, music, "what are you doing this weekend?" school stuff (homework, stupid teachers, etc.) or whatever else is common ground. (stuff you can both talk about). Questions that can be answered with "yes" or "no" or just one word or sentence are bad questions- unless you've got a follow-up question ready.
For example:
you: What's your favorite movie?
him: [some movie]
you: Oh really?! I love that movie! What's your favorite part?
*only say this if it's true* OR
you: hmmm... I've never seen that movie, what's it about?
If it's easier to talk to him via phone, im, or txt message, then do that, but talking in person really is the best way to get to know someone, in my opinion.
The reason I say try to talk to him like a friend is that it'll take away some of the pressure while you're getting to know him. Then when you've established a talking relationship (i.e. when he'll smile and say hi when he passes you in the hall, or when he'll start a conversation with you) then you can add in flirting.
So I'd say try this for a while, and if it's working, about a month before the dance, mention it in conversation to see his reaction. Sometime between a month and 2 weeks before the dance, find out if he's goign with anyone. If his answer is no, and he doesn't seem freaked out to be talking about it, suggest you go together. OR talk about how excited you are about the dance, but that you don't have a date yet. (giving him the opportunity to ask you- but be careful with this one, because some guys are stupid and don't pick up on hints)
About the dreams... try not to worry about them. If you worry about them or think about them too much, it'll just stress you out and make it even harder to talk to Matt. The nice dreams are o.k., because they might help give you confidence in going to talk to him, but overall only YOU can make the move in real life.
Good luck!
p.s. thanks for asking me a question! you are my first inbox advice question! yay!
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