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love gone wrong?
Well I am an advicenator too, and sometimes, we have to ask for advice.. I would first like to say, that I respect you for giving advice at your (our) age..
my question/situation, its kinda long and im sorry:
I dated this guy for about 5 months..I was really deeply in love with him.. but like every relationship, we had some problems.. He thought I yelled at him too much, and maybe I did.. But thats besides the point.. towards the end of our relationship, his "bestfriend" comes into the picture.. who just so happens to be a girl..It got to the point where I knew he liked her.. because he stopped telling me things(I had to beg for him just to tell me how his day was), stopped spending time with me, and just talked about her alot.. Well me and him broke up, after she took it upon herself to yell at me and tell me to kill myself(he didnt even try to stop her).. So exactly two weeks later they start going out.. im shocked, hurt, and just stunned at his actions.. so months go by.. Me and him are still good friends.. after some fighting we got everything, well mostly everything out and we're ok.. Now, him and her are going through the exact same thing that me and him went through.. I think I make it alot worse by telling him that Ill always be there for him.. Lately we've been hanging out alot yet she doesnt know.. He thinks that theyre going to break up soon anyway..
Do you think that I should still be there.. or still show that I want him back? Or am I putting myself into a situation where I could just end up getting used?
~FarewellMadison
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Oh man. Whoa. You know, that's the EXACT same situation that I was in awhile back. You care about him right? Well, if you do, then just continue what you're doing unless he asks you to just go away. But, it could cause their relationship to end, but when you think about it, she took him from YOU. I don't know, I just went for it, and it turns out he cared for me more than her. We're still together, and it's almost been a year and two months (it will be on March 8th) & I couldn't be happier. If you still want him, keep trying. You don't want to spend your life thinking about 'what could have been..'
You know what I'm saying? But, there is always a chance that he will hurt you again, but if you really love him, and want to be with him, thats a chance you really should take. For one, it doesn't seem AT ALL like he's using you. (guys don't use girls for 5 months. he would have dumped you within two weeks if he didn't care) He's just a teenage boy, and sometimes teenage boys see something they want, and if the relationship they're in is going through a rough patch, they might sometimes take it. It doesn't mean they don't care, it's just how guys are. I'm not saying to take him back, I'm just saying be there for him. Be his friend, someone he can talk to when she's being a bitch. If you get back together, then you do. If you don't, at least you still have him close to you.
I hope that helped.. and if it didn't, let me know.
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