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(13/f/canada)
okay, so a friend of mine set me up with her cousin. He's really nice an we like each other. But he lives in Ottawa and I live in Toronto. I have never even seen him before, just talked to him on the phone. My mom gave in and I am going to Ottawa to see him with my friend on Easter. I really like him but I'm I don't know about the long distance thing.
I like him alot, but do you think it's a good idea?
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My geography isn't the greatest, so I'm not sure how far your two cities are from each other. I will say that long distance relationships are tough, even for the most committed couple. They generally work best when the couple knew each other beforehand, and then they had to separate for a given amount of time.
I truthfully think dating someone far away, without the chance to see them often, isn't a recipe for a very good relationship. It's important to spend time in the same city/room/place as the other person; it's the only way to truly get to know the other person and build a relationship.
Obviously, this is all up to you. Maybe you'll meet this guy and decide that it's a worthwhile relationship. Just be aware of all the possible obstacles and how you will overcome them - like not seeing each other, seeing other people and possibly wanting to date them, and being committed to someone you really don't know all that well.
I think that relationships are about getting to know yourself and another person better, and it's always easiest to do that when you can see each other face-to-face. Otherwise, heartache and frustration can set in.
Whatever you decide to do, best of luck to you!
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