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I'm a 17 year old female..almost 18. There's this guy that I really like..that I'm almost certain that I'm in love with. Last year we messed around and did alot of things physically but he didnt want a relationship, so now I have a new boyfriend. He is awesome, but he's not like the first guy (david)..and I miss him soo much. I'm in the same drama group as he is, and it's so hard to see him everyday and not want him back..it gets so bad that I just want to cry everyday. Being away from him doesnt help either..in the 3 month break we had while drama wasn't going on, all I could think about was him. Now, he pretty much thinks of me as a fling, and definitely doesn't like me romantically..but this is getting in the way of my life with my friends and my boyfriend..help!
sry so long...:-(
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It wasn't very long. I have had similar situations that you have, and I have done the wrong way of handling it and the right way of handling it.
I think one of the things that may be bothering you most is that you don't know for sure how he feels about you. It is the unknown that bothers us more than the event itself.
You may want to discuss exactly what happened that caused you to break up with him, however, I would do it in a more crowded place so you or him are not tempted to do something else. I would go to a starbucks or your favorite cafe and ask him some questions and clarify what you meant to him. If he asks you why you want to talk about it, say that you cared for him very much, but something went wrong in your relationship that caused the break up. Say you dont' want to get back with him, but want to learn from the experience so you don't repeat it with your future. That way, you're asking him to tell you what went wrong, and then hopefully through the discussion- both of you will understand yourselves and each other better and may be better friends in the end.
However, I do believe everyone leaves a mark on our hearts forever, and you may not completely get over him, but you can start healing and love someone (your new boyfriend again).
I hope I helped and I'm sorry for my long reply. Anymore questions don't hesitate to ask.
Yours,
Arun
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