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tall dark and handsome
ok, say his guy's name is bob. now bob is 13 and in 7th grade and i am 14 and i am in 8th grade. now bob went out with a girl, say her name was "jane". jane is 14 and in 8thgrade and also a friend of mine, not a good friend, but a friend none the less. so bob and jane went out and jane about 2 weeks later dumps him. bob is really pissed and tells her to shove it and is obviously hurt. i haven't talked to bob since then and i really wanna go out with him. how long should i wait for him to get over the breakup. also once that time has come, how can i let him know my feelings that i wanna go out with him but not have things being awkward if he says no. i really don't want to tell him myself. ohh, and will jane think of me as a traitor if i date him? please tell me what to do. the more intimacy in your answer, the better i'll rate. but i rate good ne ways. please help!!
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screw the friend. she isnt close and she hurt the guys feelings and acted like a clod. wait two week by the 'rules' or say 'f the rules' and just ask him when ever. your feeligns for him are stronger, rite?
**_Nicole_**
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OK, it looks to me like you have kind of answered part of your own question. Jane is not a good friend, but just a friend. Bob you like and wanna date. Bob is pissed off because Jane dumped him. Have I got that straight?
Be a friend to Bob. Maybe he needs someone to talk to. Be someone he can pal around with for awhile, feel comfortable around; then he might ask you out. You might even break the ice by asking him to go skating or skiing or to the mall or something like that.
If you feel guilty regarding Jane, talk with her and see how she feels about your being a friend to Bob. Would she be upset if you were friends with Bob AND her? Keep in mind what you said, however, that she was a friend, but not a good friend. Weigh the decision whether her friendship is worth keeping if she would be hurt if you were friends with Bob. Above all, if you feel your friendship with Bob is more important than your friendship with Jane, be prepared for possible nasty gossip (7th-8th-9th grades are vicious backstabbers and it gets worse in high school!). Just thought I'd warn you. Been there, done that and I can still remember it (man, I'm getting old).
Hope it helps.
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Talk to him as a friend first, and by being his friend you will know when he's moved on. Talk to your friend too, and see how she would feel about the you dating him, if the time comes.
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