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Oh help me Koshii! I don't know what to do! (sorry it's so long!) ((I'm 14/f))
I was going out with "Josh" for a month or two. I've gone out with him before, but we broke up because he was cheating on me. But that was a long time ago and when he asked me back out I said yes.
Everything was going absolutly fine. Until New Years Day, when mine and Josh's mutual friend, "Matt" talked to me and said that Josh had met a girl that was a drummer (Josh is a drummer) and he quote, fell in love. I dissmissed this, because Matt likes me and has gone out with me before, and is notorious for trying to break up me and Josh.
A few days after that, I was talking to a friend of Matt and Josh's, "Lacy", online, and she said, 'I'm so sorry about what happened between you and Josh.'
I didn't know anything had happened between us, so of course I was like, WTF??
It took me awhile, but I finally got out of her that Josh had called one of her friends and said that he had broken up with me. This was not true, as far as I knew.
After that, I called Matt, and he told me that Josh wanted to break up with me because he thought I liked one of his friends. This also was very not true.
So I called Josh and confronted him. He admitted to what he had done, and apologized, and he asked for a second chance. After a bit of thought, I said ok. And so I thought the whole incident was smoothed over.....
I later talked to Lacy and found out that Josh had been cheating on me with another friend of Lacy, Matt, and Josh.
And so then Josh and I had quite an interesting conversation/fight.......He still wants to go out with me, and I kind of do...he doesn't deserve a second chance, I know that, but I still like him! All my friends say that I should not go out with him. I should so kick his ass and be done with him for good! (But also, none of them like him at all, so they're no help) So, after much thought, I came to the conclusion that I hate-to-love him.
Should I give him a third chance??
(again, sorry so long)
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Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
I know it's nigh impossible to just turn off your feelings of affection for someone, and you've been in the good-karma box for trusting and forgiving him. However a relationship with no proper communication, and one that involves cheating, is rarely satisfying.
If you don't want a deep and longlasting relationship with this guy, and that's not always bad... some people just want casual relationships... then make that clear and probably things will progress as they have so far. If you want something more, he's not the guy to get it from. I think you're aware of that. Decide what you need in your life and then make that choice.
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