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Silly question
I have been dating my boyfriend for an entire year on Monday. He is a great guy, and I want to be his forever. So he didn't present me with a ring on a one year anniversary. In fact, he didn't get me flowers, but he did take me out to our favorite place for a steak.
Two things:
1)How do I get him to send me flowers? I mean even Wal-mart hand delivered by him would be fine. Freakin' weeds even. I sent him flowers as a joke on April Fool's day addressed as to me from him. It got his attention, but alas no flowers. I actually asked him before dinner "No flowers?" And then dropped it. I have bought myself flowers. I have placed them all over the house (just grocery store flowers). I am now ready to send myself flowers with a "from your secret admirer" note. His mother keeps cut flowers sometimes, what's his deal? Do you have any other ideas to get him to send them/bring them to me?
2)When do I start getting annoying with the "I want to get engaged." hints? I was thinking Februrary if I don't get it by my birthday (Jan. 7).
So maybe that's totally annoying, but I am just frustrated. I guess I am just getting old, I don't know. We do talk about "when we're married" stuff so it isn't terribly far, but I need some suggestions.
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Most of us guys really don't know what you want us to give you. There are so many questions on this site just asking about it. I think if you bring up the fact that you would like flowers, and even go so far as to tell him what kind, you would see them a lot more often. Say something like "Hey honey, you know what would be nice for my birthday? A dozen blue lilies. I'd like that." Yes, be blunt and outright tell him. It saves confusion, hesistation, and he'll know exactly what you want without having to ask himself "I wonder if she would like this?"
About being engaged: I see you two have been dating for a year now. I understand the feeling of wanting to spend the rest of your life with someone. How old are you? Have you ever been married before? Me and my ex talked about what we'd do when we were married. Obviously, we were young and stupid (and still are) but to be completely honest, age sometimes doesn't change that. You can be older and just as stupid about love.
My suggestion, from a point of view of a total stranger, is this: Wait. I'm sure a year feels like quite enough time to decide, but you can never be really, ultimately sure about someone until you live your lives to the end. I'd say it's a bad idea to become engaged with someone you haven't been with for more than two years, but if you really feel that strongly, then go through it. And if you're waiting for him, don't. You don't have to go through with the whole cliche "Will you marry me?" bit. "Hey, you wanna get married?" "Yeah, ok. Let's go buy you a ring."
Anything more, you know where I am. <3 - K'
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