|
confused about the truth
Hey tara. ok well i have this little problem that could get very bad. i have a wonderful boyfriend. i really like him alot and he's so amazing and treats me well and is just all around good. but...ive cheated on him...twice with this guy ive liked since i was about 11 from church. and i dunno why i did or even how i got myself into the situation...i didnt give this other guy any tip offs that i was interested in him. i just treated him like i do all my other friends. but that doesnt really matter. im just worried that my boyfriend, who i told after the first time, will find out about the second time and break up with me. which i guess i deserve but it doesnt make it easier...and i dunno if i should tell my boyfriend about the second time or not. if i dont tell him chances are very high that he will not find out. i just feel bad keeping this from him...what should i do?
[ ]
Want to answer more questions in the Relationships category?
Maybe give some free advice about: Love Life?
yikes. that is a bad sitaution. you say you didnt give this guy any "tip offs" but it takes two people to cheat, the person who is cheating and the person they are cheating with, so even if you didnt give him any "tip offs", you still did something because you cheated with him.. and he helped you cheat right back. does he know that you have a boyfriend? more importantly, WHAT ON EARTH posessed you to cheat on your boyfriend.. with the same guy.. TWICE?? especially if hes the nice incredible guy you described he was.. he def didnt deserve to be cheated on. if you are going to cheat on your boyfriend you might have to rethink your relationship. you might be with your boyfriend because hes obviously very good to you and he seems like perfect sense.. but its totally chaos and doesnt make any sense if you are not going to be fair to him. it was very good to tell him the first time, and if i was him i would be very mad. it was also very good of him to take you back, even i understand that people make mistakes and dont know what they want and all of that stuff, and your young (at least i think you are) and therefore you dont have any marriage commitment or anthing liek that, so you can be free and explore your options.. but not twice. in a relationship you cant have that much freedom. if it was me, i would tell him. but im not you, so whatever choice you make im sure will be the right one. good luck.. hope all goes well and you get to keep your boyfriend
]
More Questions: |