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graceful endings
Here's my problem: there's this guy who is completely in love with me. I don't want to hurt his feelings, but I don't feel the same way about him. This ordinarily wouldn't be a problem, but we've had a casual sexual relationship in the past. I don't want it to continue, but I can't think of a good way to say that without being hurtful. Avoidence isn't going to work forever.
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Does he still try to contact you? Does he call you, write emails, etc.? Are you ignoring his attempts to contact you? It sounds like your gut instincts are telling you it is better to tell him what is going on with you, rather than just ignoring him and hoping he will go away. It's always better to be upfront and honest with your thoughts and feelings than to avoid uncomfortable conversations. The next time he tries to contact you, respond. Talk to him, preferably face-to-face, but the phone is way better than just an email. Just tell him what you want. Do you want a friendship with him? Or, do you want no contact with him at all? If you treat him kindly and respectfully, you will have done the best you can. He will probaby be hurt, but you can't really be responsible for that. We all go into dating knowing that we aren't always going to get what we want. The potential to be hurt comes with the territory. As long as you are not being selfish and cruel, and you are being honest, you are doing the right thing.
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