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ok...soOo i miss how the old days use to b...u c i have moved several times in my day and have been to several different schools. and everytime i move, it seemes to be harder and harder to make really great friends... it seems like everybody has their own little "clicks" at hooch and it is hard to fit in...sometimes i wish that i had never moved cuz i really miss what i use to have with my old friends...dont get me wrong i mean i do have friends now but they r nothing like wat i use to have...i honesty wish i could have not moved and for that i always wonder how my life could have been defferent
PLEASE tell me how i can get a close relationship again with my friends...
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haha yes, hoochie is FULL of cliques. and theyr tough to get into.. and sometimes you dont want to get into them. let me give you some advice... ok that was a stupid remark because duh, thats what you asked me for, advice, otherwise you woudlnt have come to my sight in the first place lol. im a cheerleader at hooch, as u obviously know, but that doesnt mean i just hang out with "the crowd" as my friends are commonly known. yes, i have tons of friends that are fball players and cheerleaders (which is, stereotypically what "the crowd" consists of)i have friends who do other sports (an example is XC.. a lot of my friends run) and then friends who play diff sports and arnt in "the crowd" adn friends who dont play a sport at all. i have friends who are preps, i have friends who are jocks, i have friends who have very strong Faith and friends who are atheist.. ok so to make a long story short, i have a lot of friends from a lot of different "cliques" and i love them all equally. and i "fit in" with them. they accept me for the person i am because i can be real with them. i know that theyr my real friends because they are caring, they listen when needed, give advice when needed, and most importantly they never judge. they dont see me as lesser of a person because i made a mistake. instead, they help me correct my mistakes. i know i can be myself around them. and if you just want to "fit in" then i am telling you to find friends like mine. whatever you do, dont give in to peer pressure. say people are smoking or drinking (i know i sound like im preaching here and im some anti-drug campaign spokesperson but bear with me here) whatevr you do, dont give in becaues every1 else is doing it. are they really your REAL friends if they pressure you? no! and do you feel good about giving in? no! so dont. be yourself around everyone, if they accept you great! you have a new friend and your relationship will strengthen over time. if they dont accept you, that sucks for them cuz your probably a great person and its their loss. you dont need them.
now, if you want to make more friends here, i have a corny, but true saying. "the only way to have a friend is to be a friend." start inviting people to go out on a friday or sat night, go to the mall with girlfriends, have a movie night with a big group, go out to dinner.. etc etc. the possibilities are endless. the point is actually doing htem. once you invite people places, they invite you to do stuff. confide in your friends. letting them into your life and showing them that your willing to open up and let them in makes them feel special, and they will let you into their life too.
definitely keep in touch with your old friends, and continue to strenghten the bonds with your new ones. every friend is good for at least one reason. you need both sets of friends, old and new for just that purpose. and yes, moving sucks! but think of it this way, if you hadnt moved, you wouldnt have met me, and you wouldnt be asking me this advice which im not sure is going to help you but im really trying lol. but, i hope it does. im all out of words and wisdom.. thanks for asking, friend!
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