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Dear msListenLady,
I'm male, 25. I've been going through a very stressful time with my job and family recently - I got laid off despite excellent qualifications, because they have outsourced to Canada, and was quite severely depressed. I am introspective, and don't have many friends, but value the ones I do very deeply. Anyway, I rather stupidly decided that I would be jealous of my friends' families, and their lives generally, being so much better than my own. In a moment of despair I told some of my very best friends (some of who I fancy majorly, but that's another matter!! LOL) that I never wanted to see them again. I swallowed my pride a few days later and apologized, but I don't know if they'll ever truly forgive me. I don't even know what I'm asking advice for... Maybe how do I broaden my friendship circle so I'm not so dependent on these few, given how shy and reticent I am? Or how do I stop myself reacting angrily under extreme stress? I just feel so lonely sometimes, I don't know what to do. I know I need a more positive outlook but what possible reason do I have?
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Oh wow, that was a handful, lol. First of all, never ever take your friends for granted. No matter if you're angry at them, jealous of them, or whatever! It's not the quantity of friends you have, but the quality. True friendships are hard to find, so don't let them go. As for your whole situation, your life sounds a lot like mine (minus the job part and the depression). I'm also very shy with not a huge circle of friends, but some very close ones. If you do want to broaden your friendship circle, get out! Go out every chance you get, never say no cause you'll never know what happen. You meet peopel through other people and other people, and it goes on and on! Or just go out by yourself, being by yourself isn't always a bad thing. And as for your shyness, I am too. But I don't let anyone know it. On the outside I excude confidence but on the inside I'm completely terrified. Take baby steps, smile at strangers, make small talk in lines, anything! Under extreme stress, just let it go. You'll get nothing accomplished (well) if you are stressed out. Just breathe and relax and take things one at a time. Don't worry about life so much, things always eventually work out, as long as you keep your head up and think positively :)
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