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Dear XoLilMsYankeeoX,
I have this friend, well acutally shes one of my best friends and i love her so much, but it feels like were drifting apart, and i hate it. Ever since my boyfriend and i have beein going out, we havent been as close, and i she dosent seem like him him. and i always said that i would never let a guy come between my friends and me. But now i think its happeneing. But sometimes i feel like she kinda excludes me on things.. maybe im wrong, and i do the ssame thing too.. but since we have different groups of friends.. shes usually hers and im w/ mine, and i dont feel comfortable around hers and she knows that but i dont kno if she understands it. But yeah its realy had me down lately and i just dont kno if this is just a phase or if its going to last a long time. I guess what im saying is i need ur help on what are things i can do to maybe help pull my realtionship back together with her. If u have any suggestions that would be great.
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mayb ur best friend misses you a lot and she feels like you don't let her in on anything nemore. you don't tell her nething, u don't talk to her, and u don't come to her with ur problems like you used to. and yea, you two have drifted apart, a lot, and it all is because of this boyfriend. no, ur best friend doesnt like this boyfriend that much but hey, thats a given. chicks before dicks, right? wrong. that's how it was SUPPOSED to be between you and your best friend but it happened neway. the infamous story of the boyfriend coming between friends occurs. ever since you've been going out with this guy, your friend feels as if you don't have any time for her anymore. mayb you're always talking about this guy and nothing else, and then when you sense something is wrong, u stop talking about him altogether, and because u only talked about this guy, there is nothing important left to talk about. and sometimes mayb ur friend might wonder what in God's good name made you go out with this guy? she think's he can be really weird sometimes. but mayb she tried to stay out of it and not get caught up in crap, because she just wanted her best friend to be happy. but that just made things worse, because you two grew farther apart then ever. and yea, she knows you have different groups of friends, but who the hell cares? she doesnt, and u dont, thats why ur friends in the first place? so why should it matter? mayb she hangs out with those friends more often because it seems more and more often you are hanging out with your boyfriend and ur group of friends. and she DOES understand that you arnt comfortable in her group of friends, even tho she has tried in several ways to include you, so its not her fault you declined so many times. mayb ur friend just wants to help you come out of ur box, a plan that was supposed to happen over the summer but never did. and its ok if it never does happen, but it didnt hurt to try. just because ur not hanging out with ur bff all the time doesnt mean u should stop telling her things. because that means she is totally out of your life, and that makes her VERY sad. because she loves you SO MUCH and misses you terribly.. so i guess my advice to you is to talk to her, in person, and give her a huge hug, because that's enough to make anyone's day SUPERB
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