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Do you think its possible to fall in love online. Because I met this guy and I feel like I'm falling for him. Hes so sweet. I'm almost scared because I feel that I love himso much. I don't wanna get hurt.
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I will start by stating that The Romantic in me believes very strongly that love can be waiting for you anywhere, around any corner, in any situation. So, following this logic, then certainly, love could find you on-line.
Another part of me, The Realist, knows that people sometimes tend to believe themselves to be "in love" when in reality they are intoxicated by the dizzying effects of the early stages of a new relationship. I don't know the specifics of your situation, so I won't assume this is the case; however, it is something for you to think about.
Alas, there is yet another part of me, we'll call her The Skeptic. My inner skeptic takes a hard look at every situation, analyzing every conceivable angle and she doesn't allow me to give away my love and trust for free, but only to those who have truly earned them.
Now, I know that, so far, my answer seems a bit schizophrenic but bear with me because I'm coming around to the point. I am just as willing to acknowledge my inner skeptic as I am to embrace my inner romantic because together they keep me happy and safe all at the same time. [I hope I don't really need to say this, but first and foremost, regardless of your developing feelings, you must make sure that the information you're receiving from this person is true and accurate. I am basing my advice on the assumption that you have already ensured your physical safety in this scenario.]
Moving on, I don't doubt that you have genuine feelings for this guy, but realize that having an in-person relationship with someone will be more complex than a cyber one. In addition, if an in-person relationship is not possible due to distance or other limiting factors, then you are left with a relationship that can lead to separation angst and other frustrations that may be equal to or possibly greater than the joy it brings you.
Taking all of this into consideration, if you are still feeling like you want to continue to grow this relationship, my advice is to go ahead and follow your heart, but keep your eyes wide open and keep your brain in the game. Your heart is usually likely to talk louder than your head, but both voices need to be listened too. Without having more specific information about your circumstances, I don't think it would be appropriate for me to give more specific advice, but hopefully some of these thoughts will help. Best of luck to you.
Kind wishes,
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