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What do I do?
13/f
The Story:
Okay I have a boyfriend who I have liked for a while, but I recently was just going out with one of his friends, but they are no longer friends. And well anyways my ex-boyfriend I really was in love with, and he broke my heart. And he only did it because he thought there was no trust in the relationship. And then he thought about it all. And 10 days later he told me he still liked me, and was in love with me still, and wants to go back out with me. And at the same exact time he told me that, my friend, well boyfriend now, was asking me out. And I said yes to him. But now my ex-boyfriend is heart broken knowing that i have a boyfriend, who happens to live by him, go to school with him, and they use to be friends. But my ex-boyfriend is so sweet with it all. He asked me once if i was thinking about "dumping" my boyfriend now, and I asked why, and my ex-boyfriend said because he really was in love with me, and hates him self everyday for breaking up with me, and breaking my heart. And I told him I think we should be friends right now, and go back out in high school, or MAYBE a little sooner. And he said what ever makes you happy, just as long as you are happy. And the thing with my ex-boyfriend, who yes i was in love with, and yes at age 13, and go ahead and call it puppy love, but i really do know it was so much more. Anyways, well my ex-boyfriend was really just the best, the only thing that really hurt me was that we didn't get to see eachother that much. And that sucked. But I managed because i knew i still had him in my life, and that made me happy. And me and him also not being able to see eachother often is a parshle reason why i think me and him should go out in high school, that way he could of maybe grown away from always having to do things, and being busy, and we could see eachother more. But....here is the problem i need advice with:
Do I stay with my boyfriend I have now,who I do love.Or break up with him and go out with my ex-boyfriend, who I was in love with, and still could be. Or do I just play it solo?
And one more thing, i don't know if i am having mixed feelings, i think i just might feel bad for my ex-boyfriend.
Some one please help me... :(
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Wow. Im sry your in such a tangle, but im here to help so I'll write ya a good long one. I dont really believe you feel bad for your X. I think that relationships where you dont see eachother alot work better because you appreciate so much the time you do have together, and thats what is important. You sound so torn both ways, but just from what I hear, you were ment to be with yer X. He didnt think you guys have trust but how much more could he trust that you guys were really in love if you would break up with your other boyfriend for him. I think you should definetly take him back and give it a try. Stay really good friends with the boyfriend... I mean worse comes to worse you could always find eachother again and fall back in love or whatever but for now you are meant to be with the X. Take it real easy on the boyfriend and just see what happens. I think you'll be fine... I think alot of this is just you being nervous... all you have to do is take a leap of faith and trust everything will go well. Not that that's particularly easy but if your strong enough to come this far, you'll make it the rest of the way.
Have x Faith
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good luck hun!
Let me know what happens!
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hey,
I know u think a lot of us older teens n adults might think these things r puppy love, but i see where ur comming from, i was in the same position last night now that i think of it. You seem to be a wounderful girl, that all the guys want. From wut i see is that if u REALLY LIKE ur x-bf and think u could manage seeing him more..(trying to make the time possible) then go for it...BUT the other thing is.....this guy ur with now, use to be friends with ur x-bf, u have to look at it this way to, he could be just jalous that his old friend has sum1 he once loved, n doesnt feel right having him dating u, n now wants u back of jalousy, or it could happen to be that he does still have feelings for u, (let me put it this way its like a 2 way stop sign but on the main street bettween the stop signs is u n then guys r ur 2 way stop sign. Your the main street. One guy likes u but cant help get across u (ova u) n the other guy is that other stop sign that loves u a lot, n doesnt wanna get across u just yet, or maybe never (ova u) u just have to kinda look at it that way. Sry im 15 so0o im kinda in the driving thing where a lot of my exsamples r about driving things. But i hope this helps u, n i hope t hear from u!
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About your current boyfriend: Are you happy with him? If yes, don't break up. If no, break up with him regardless of whether you want to get back with your ex...
As with your ex, usually it's not a good idea to get back together with someone that broke up with you...
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