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Unintentionally Closed Off...
I've never had a boyfriend and that's fine, but I have a feeling it has a lot to do with how closed off I am. I am not a very trusting person and I tend to push people away. I get really lonely being by myself all the time and I was just wondering how I could help myself to open up my heart and start to trust people again.
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I so had this problem, but it was more of an "I've been burned, so now I'm afraid to trust guys" thing.
You've gotta find someone who's been through similar situations/felt the same thing. I'm not a trusting person either, and my bf had to deal with me fighting a crush on him for a month before I finally gave in and went out with him.
It's good that you don't trust everyone, but you've gotta trust SOMEONE. The easiest people to start with are a couple of your closest friends. The hardest are probably your parents.
Try to see your situation from someone else's point of view. If you start to push someone away, take a step back and think for a minute. "Why am I pushing this person away?" "What am I so afraid of?" Let yourself trust once in awhile - take a dive.
I did, and it's the smartest thing I ever did. I'll have been dating my guy for eleven months on October 14th. =)
You don't have to bear your soul to people (god knows I never do). Just open up a little. Let 'em get to know you. What's the worst that can happen?
If you need more help, don't hesitate to talk to me. I hope this helped on some level!
-Siren =)
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