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okay im not very old..and im not the prettiest person so not very many guys like me...but the ones who do i start liking cuz i guess i like being liked since i like hardly am...anyways all those guys want to do is make out and finger me and get blow jobs...i dont want to but i like them so i dont want them to stop liking me...and i know if i dont do that stuff with them they'll stop liking me...ahhh what do i do???
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July 26, 2004
Dear you,
Starting to like guys that like you just because you're not liked very much, I can totally relate to that (I liked the ladies though, not the boys). When I was younger I had a hard time getting most of the girl's attention (I wasn't the personification of dead sexy back then like I totally am now!), so it seemed I just went out with anyone just because... well, because I could and it was better than nothing, right? As I got older I realized it's really not worth it because you aren't totally happy with them and there is probably a lot of stuff they do that you can't stand. You shouldn't go out with someone just because they are there. It's also not very fair to the person to use them just to have a boyfriend or girlfriend. Imagine how you would feel if you found out a guy just went out with you because he didn't want to be single. Kind of sad when you think about it.
As far as not wanting to do the stuff with the guys... then don't. If they have a problem with that tell them to kiss your ass. If they have a problem with you not wanting to do anything then obviously they don't like you very much. Most kids when they like someone they will bend over backwards to get the person to like them back, right? If a guy gives up on you because you won't do those things with him, then obviously he doesn't like you enough to respect you. If he just gives up and doesn't stick with trying to get you to like him then he is a complete dumbass and was just using you for those things in the first place. Tell him to go get a blowjob from one of his homies and he can finger their butthole if they are so impatient. Yuck, visual images. As you get older it will just get worse, as most guys will go out with a girl until they "get some" and then dump them. It sounds like younger guys give up right away.
The best advice I can give you is to straight up tell the guy you aren't into that stuff yet, but only tell him if he asks! Don't make it sound like it's a total impossibility though. Tell him that you really like him (only if you REALLY do!) and once y'all are together for awhile and become closer, then there is a possibility that things could happen. This will make him think things will actual happen if he is patient with you and also will give him a small ego boost with you telling him you really like him. This doesn't mean it's a definite that you will do things though, and you should also make sure he knows that. Just don't do anything you don't want to do. Don't let anybody tell you what to do, even if it's totally unrelated to this subject. Just life in general, if you don't want to do something then tell the person to "f*** themselves" or you can be a little bit nicer than that... haha. The coolest people are individuals that don't let people try to control what they do, think, or take crap from anybody. Remember that, as it is probably the best advice I could ever give someone.
Hope everything works out. Don't forget that being pressured into doing things will only lead to heartbreak and guilt, and that's definitely not worth it. Be strong and be yourself. If they can't handle that then I got a little <i>"sumtin' sumtin'"</i> they can kiss. For all those asshole guys out there, you make us all look bad. So suck it! Suck it long and suck it hard you stupid mother...
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