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I'm 14 years old and I have one AWESOME boyfriend (Ryan). The only problem is, my best friend (Alyssa) doesn't really get along with him. In the past the people i've gone out with have been really close friends with her. Now it's different for her because she's not close with this new boyfriend and they always tend to fight. She thinks he's the most insecure person in the world and only cares about himself. And he thinks she's annoying and selfish. I try to split time evenly between the two..but i just wish that we could TRY to hang out together sometime but they never want to. When i hang out with her he always says "You're with her ALL the time." and when i hang out with him she's just negative about it. I feel awkward talking to her about him because she doesn't understand him and know him like I do, but i shouldn't she's my BEST friend. They have SO much in common it's CRAZY! they just dont give eachother a chance. Not to mention im stuck in the middle getting involved in fights with both of them, it's SO hard for me to please them both at the same time. How do i get them to give eachother a chance?
Britt
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Well Britt sounds like something I have been through before...your best friend not liking your boyfriend. It's definitally not right how they act about eachother...but some things you just cannot change. You said that its hard to talk to alyssa about your bf...well i reallie think that is because she is jelious of him since he took you away from her. before being with him it was always just you two - and now its you two and him aswell..its just jeliously (even though its not right!) how ryan is acting by saying things about your best friend is indeed a little childish and not needed. his personal feelings towards your friends should be kept to himself, for the simple fact that you really care about her. You said they have alot in common..well it kinda sounds like your boyfriend is a better person to talk to then Alyssa right about now. So have a talk with Ryan, tell him how you feel..and how you dont like it that you and your best friend dont get along..that you feel like your in the middle of constint fights. I know it is very drastic and RIGHT to the point..but some people understand things better when you just get them out in the open like that. Idk if your an outspoken person..or very quite, but build up the courage to say something to him...believe me if he really cares he will listen. I know you said its hard to talk to your best friend about your new boyfriend, but I really would sudgest you to have a heart to heart talk to her. You two are best friends, know everything about eachother..love eachother like sisters...the most you can do is just tell her you want to talk to her. Really tell her how you hate how her and Ryan dont get along - how you feel like your always in the middle of their fights and you wish it would stop. Towards the end after both of you have spoken your peace..(TO BOTH RYAN AND ALYSSA) be sure to mention they have alot in common..if they just took the time to get to know eachother then maybe they would get along..and it would mean so much for them to get along to you.
I also have an AWESOME boyfriend named RYAN!! :) hehe!
hope i helped..sorry its so long!
x0x-dani
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