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i apologize but, this might turn out to be a long one....i met this guy when i was in 7th grade and even before i saw him, i just fell "madly in love" with him and have liked him since that day, which has been 3 years now. i haven't really talked to him in forever and i don't understand why i still like him because i don't know him anymore (people change) but i just can't get over his eyes, smile, voice, laugh, talents; the him i knew then....sometimes, i just think i'm holding onto the image that i want him to be....i've liked other guys also but, i've never ceased liking him; i've always thought about him and hence the reason why i've never had a boyfriend. it's like, i can't find any guy better than him, or maybe i don't want to. it's a complicated feeling, lol....but what i'd like to have some advice on is if i should get over him (because i've never really tried) or if i should try to get to know him again. i know his phone number and his s/n but i don't want to be rude to call him and be like "hi! we haven't talked in forever so, update me on you," coming off about half stalker-ish. he's never called or IMed me so i feel like he doesn't want to know me so i don't want to annoy or bother him or waste his time (maybe he feels the same way though). i miss him so dearly but, does he miss me at all? if i were to ever see him again, i would tell him i honestly love him; going against any profession on "love" i've ever made and becoming my worst pet-peeve: a hypocrite. but, i'd do anything to tell him
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I'm going to take this in steps, so bear with me.
Do realize that people change over time. The person that you knew when you guys were closer might be no where near the person he is now. Believe me, ex-boyfriends of mine have changed so drastically in the past year that it is quite scary. If you are sure that you want to try and make something out of it, you could IM him and just be like, "Hey, we haven't talked for a while. How have you been?" Gradually initiate more conversations with him... if he keeps giving you all one word answers and the conversation dies you'll know it's time to move on. If he seems to have a genuine interest in reviving your friendship (which could turn into a relationship), then things could work out.
To seem not-stalkerish, don't IM him EVARY time you're both online... if you call, don't call too often. View your friendship as a ladder and work it up rung by rung. If you're too overwhelming, he'll get, well, overwhelmed, and then things will be bad for you both.
Best of luck with this situation... any update would be nice, I'd love to hear about how the people I give advice to are doing :) My email is iamtheturc@yahoo.com.
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