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Great column... My boyfriend and I just had a mutual break-up. Another boy I know wants to date me, I like him and all but I think it's too early. What do you think?
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First of all, thank you. I appreciate the compliment.
A funny thing happens after a break up, mutual or otherwise. We have a tendency to look for what we may have done wrong or could have done better in the relationship, even in mutual break ups. In keeping with that, we are more open to any signs that someone else finds anything in us that they deem worthy or attractive. When that happens, we usually find ourselves feeling a bit stornger than we would normally and at a much faster rate only to find later that those feelings weren't really genuine or in the least, not as "real" as we once thought. So, I think you have already come up with the best possible solution at this point, and the most mature, might I add. Take it slow. You can even enjoy his company from time to time in an effort to get to know him better, and give him the opportunity to know more about you. As time passes, you'll both know what the next move should be. But for now, I agree with you whole-heartedly. It may just be too early. Wait until you've completely come to terms with the dissolution of your last relationship and then move on for the two of you, not just what you may be needing in a "rebound" situation.
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