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Hi
You gave me some advice..Um...I wrote about the guy that I really liked and I messed things up really bad, and he blocked me on AIM. And you mentioned that I had to move on, until he does something to invite me to talk to him. Well, he unblocked me. And I've talked to him a couple of times, but I haven't pushed the issue. I don't want to irritate him. I think he's still mad at me..well, I kind of know. He pretty much said it. And I think...that he does miss me. And that he does wonder about being with me again, I mean...he wouldnt still look at me right? Well...my friends/mother (Yeah..I know...I'm pathetic) think that he's just afraid that I haven't changed, and that we would end up hurting each other again...and I would flip out on him again...thats why he doesn't pursue anything. They tell me to be patient, and I really do want him back. And I dont sit around and wait for him. I do other things. I just...well, what do you think? Thanks.
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We're here to supplement your friends and mother, not replace them... no patheticness there.
I had a friend who once told me he could coach me in how to get a definitive answer from a cute, recalcitrant girl... only he more or less guaranteed it would be "go away!" It would of course free you up from waiting for him if you follow my friend's methods. A little more aggravation might even build character (like a camping trip in the rain) but it's probably not what you're looking for.
The best remedy for his fears is probably time and a little space. Your time for proactiveness is over, his time is upon him (and he can choose his pace or decline altogether). Allow whatever he chooses to be a pleasant surprise, either a concern drifted off your mind or forgiveness and renewal... or whatever mix of those happens. There'll be time for you to take action and be successful in this arena in the future, but a little patience is all I can suggest for now.
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