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I got raped, but i still orgasmed
Age:17
Gender: Female
Question: Why did i orgasm when i got raped?
Hey guys . Recently I got raped, but I still orgasmed. Even though I really didn't want to. I don't know what happened, one moment I was protesting, the next i orgasmed. I don't know what is wrong with me. I hated it so much, yet my body enjoyed it. I feel so guilty and annoyed with myself. I thought as soon as h finished he would leave but he wouldn't stop until i reached climax and eventually orgasmed. Even then he went in for a few more rounds, leaving me in pain. I wish i could erase thy moment from my head. I wish it never happened. What do i do?
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As it happens, there are even known to be rapists who, among other things, do want intentionally to cause physical pleasure to their victims. Not surprisingly, far from bringing any silver lining to the dark cloud of whatever sexual assault, such ambiguity may instead engender ambivalence, inner conflict.
However: Categorically, you must understand that you retain every right to your own sensations and indeed to clearly pick and choose whatever aspects you like or dislike about any experience whatsoever. This is no cause for additional anguish.
Certainly, all to true: You are just asking for it, young lady! But what precisely are you asking for, and from whom? That is for you alone to ponder to your own satisfaction.
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First, I back everything solidadvice4teens wrote you.
Second, I'd like to give an analogy regarding an answer on 'why did i orgasm'.
When you accidentally touch something hot, you pull your hand back in a split second, or a quarter of one second, your brain not able to remember having the thought of 'react to prevent getting hurt badly'. That is a protective self interest all humans are born with. Our body will react to danger but separately from what is going through your brain. Thus, you can expect the brain to hate what is happening at the same time your bodys natural instincts react. You did nothing to cause it to happen and what he did is still rape. Especially forcing you when you said no. That is rape.
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The first thing you need to do although it may be hard is to tell your parents what happened, where it happened, the circumstances and who it was. Have them help you go to the police and have the person charged and get them to get you counselling and support. You need that. You also need to get as far away as possible from this person. A restraining order may/may not be something to consider.
If you know of other girls that are in his orbit and could be victimized by him start making a lot of noise about what he did to you so they can see what he's done. You'll need your parents, loved ones and friends to align behind you to deal with what has occurred.
The only person who should feel shame or blame themselves is the prick who did this to you full stop period. You shouldn't feel guilt or be annoyed with yourself. An orgasm is a physical action that we don't have control over. The fact this happened means nothing at all. It hasn't anything to do with the fact that you were violated, assaulted and need support and to go after this person so somebody else never has this happen to them. Believe me if he's done this once he will do it again. It's a behaviour and pattern with these assholes.
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My recommendation would be to report this to the police, if you have any possible proof. You said "recently"? How recent? Rape is rape, whether you climaxed, or not. If this is in time,you should see a doctor and get documentation with a rape examination kit.
You may wish to seek rape counseling, since the experience was still traumatic for you.
And I'm asking you, what made you vulnerable to being raped in the first place? Did you know this person? Were you drinking? Were you in unsafe circumstances or surroundings? What might you have done differently? This is NOT to say that you are to blame! In any way. But if you were vulnerable, at risk, in a dangerous situation, what might you have done to avoid it, and how might you protect yourself in the future?
Do NOT have anything more to do with the jerk who abused you, please ! Good wishes, Dr. Stephanie
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