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Career and transferring university
I am a 19 years old girl studying Computer Science at an average university in a small country. Education has always been a priority for me. I really want to become a great professional and I am happy and ready to do a lot for that. I know that I should work hard, do my university homework properly, do more than just the homework, do internships, be active, volunteer, and so on. I know that it is also about the little things. it's about how I spend my day, about whether I have enough will-power to solve that one problem, read that one page, learn those 10 new English words every day before I go to sleep. Those little things will add up in the end, they will become big after a year and that's how I will be different from an average professional. Recently I have been considering transferring to another university abroad because I constantly think my current university is not going to make me the specialist I aspire to be. But sometimes I think that it is more about me than the university, that I should do self-learning, that it's only 4 years of study and I will learn the majority of my skills while working after graduation. I am in such an uncertain situation, I am afraid that if I stay I will regret in the future, and If I try transferring I have a fear of not being admitted, wasting time and money on applications, TOEFl etc., and if I do get admitted I am afraid it will be worse or maybe not worth the finances and effort. Could I have some advise on what I should do in general to become an excellent computer scientist? The transfer thing is very complicated and depends on many factors, but could you tell me what kind of environment, what level of hard work and difficulty do I need? I constantly feel that there are some things I should be doing that I am not aware of, that I am missing on something...
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From your description, I sense that you are already the winner you aim to be. Is your present school accredited? Are you getting the education you want and need? That's all you need to ask yourself and I think you are over-worrying about everything.
You already have doubts about your current school, and I think it would be a wise move to check in with an academic advisor to get feedback on whether your current program is adequate enough for your aspirations. If you are a current student, generally , you can get expert guidance without charge,about interest and aptitude testing, career paths, salaries, competition, etc.
In some fields, its primarily that you have a degree, not where you got it. But in your chosen area, perhaps the training involved will make the difference and you could compare the curriculum at your proposed new school with that of the one you are currently attending.
Fears that you will not be admitted are always present, but...nothing risked, nothing gained.
What you have to lose by applying would be time and money, of course. What do you have to lose by NOT applying?
My gut feeling is that you'll do just fine in the work world, either way. Its ability that counts, perhaps more than where you got your degree.
You posted this question some time ago, so it might be interesting to take a look at what progress you have made in resolving this question since then.
Good luck and good wishes, ~Dr.Stephanie
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My question for you is how much do you want this? Because from the sound of it you are willing to give into your demons. Everything works out, at the moment I think you need a moment to reflect on how hard you have trained to get there. If you mum and dad, teachers and family let you go then they must see something in you. Do this for me, remind yourself why you are there, then remind yourself why you deserve to be there. If nothing came to mind then think deeper. Is this what you have been wanting since you were a child? Or maybe it's a parent wish (which then that's not ok). As a 19 year old in uni you have a lot pressure on your shoulders. Give yourself a day to look after your mental health, talk to your family or friends. you will always have someone there with you ok? Environment wise I would suggest socializing with people that are in the same year, I assume they are having the same feelings. Don't go too hard on yourself and live your life, you are young and have a long time left ok? <3
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I think what you are missing is the ability to just relax and let things unfold for you. Often things we keep pushing for or worrying over in our life consume us.
The best thing to do is relax and understand first of all that you are doing your absolute best at school and learning and absorbing all you can. Everything you are doing now is exactly how you become a better professional and ready to achieve in real world scenarios.
I think what you are alluding to as a university is akin to a college in the U.S. or something small rather than big. Universities here typically teach a ton of theory that is useful but don't teach you hands on how to be X,Y, A professional.
What you need is a program with internships and one that puts you in the field from the get go giving you everything you need to succeed. Then you can go after the university here or abroad and get the theory. It's all about what you have now and can apply.
You might find yourself living abroad and going to school but it seems like it's NOT the right thing for you to be doing for now. Although the program you are in now has shortcomings and what program doesn't at least you fit in and are learning. If there's something you are dissatisfied with at least you can talk to someone about it.
When you venture abroad you really need to know a lot about where you are going and have the life skills to resolve problems especially big ones you'll run into that your parents who are thousands of miles away can't fix.
Fear is what is driving you and at the core of what you are doing to the fact it's chocking you and it's all circuits are overloaded. You have to understand that failing at something at least once is how you make yourself better.
You have to see that study, study, study and not doing anything else is harming you. You do have to study but it shouldn't be your life and on mind 24/7/365. Find what makes you relaxed and happy and you'll ind yourself excelling.
It sounds for now that TOEFL, applications and spending a lot of money is NOT the right thing for you. Focus on the program you are in and doing well and understand all you can do is your best. Anything uncertain is something not to do right now. Your gut is telling you it's not right.
I think what you could benefit a lot from is finding a therapist you can talk to about problems that are bothering you and dragging you down so that you can deal with them and progress. You have to let this stuff out and have it go.
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