Member Since: February 17, 2021
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Last Update: February 17, 2021
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I am a 19 years old girl studying Computer Science at an average university in a small country. Education has always been a priority for me. I really want to become a great professional and I am happy and ready to do a lot for that. I know that I should work hard, do my university homework properly, do more than just the homework, do internships, be active, volunteer, and so on. I know that it is also about the little things. it's about how I spend my day, about whether I have enough will-power to solve that one problem, read that one page, learn those 10 new English words every day before I go to sleep. Those little things will add up in the end, they will become big after a year and that's how I will be different from an average professional. Recently I have been considering transferring to another university abroad because I constantly think my current university is not going to make me the specialist I aspire to be. But sometimes I think that it is more about me than the university, that I should do self-learning, that it's only 4 years of study and I will learn the majority of my skills while working after graduation. I am in such an uncertain situation, I am afraid that if I stay I will regret in the future, and If I try transferring I have a fear of not being admitted, wasting time and money on applications, TOEFl etc., and if I do get admitted I am afraid it will be worse or maybe not worth the finances and effort. Could I have some advise on what I should do in general to become an excellent computer scientist? The transfer thing is very complicated and depends on many factors, but could you tell me what kind of environment, what level of hard work and difficulty do I need? I constantly feel that there are some things I should be doing that I am not aware of, that I am missing on something... (link)
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My question for you is how much do you want this? Because from the sound of it you are willing to give into your demons. Everything works out, at the moment I think you need a moment to reflect on how hard you have trained to get there. If you mum and dad, teachers and family let you go then they must see something in you. Do this for me, remind yourself why you are there, then remind yourself why you deserve to be there. If nothing came to mind then think deeper. Is this what you have been wanting since you were a child? Or maybe it's a parent wish (which then that's not ok). As a 19 year old in uni you have a lot pressure on your shoulders. Give yourself a day to look after your mental health, talk to your family or friends. you will always have someone there with you ok? Environment wise I would suggest socializing with people that are in the same year, I assume they are having the same feelings. Don't go too hard on yourself and live your life, you are young and have a long time left ok?
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Gosh, being bi is so confusing and it tears me apart thinking about it, my friends, a lot of them are homophobic. It sucks to know that even if I ever gather up the courage to come out, I’ll be alone. I don’t want to be involved w/homophobic people because I’m literally bi and also, i have a moral compass. But I’m too scared to be alone without them. Especially hazel, she’s the closest to me but because of “her religion” (in her words) she’s one of those “I dOn’T aGrEe wItH thE lIfeStylE” but it’s so complicated. Is it just religion? Is that even a justifiable reason? But it fricking sucks knowing my closest friends of 4 yrs would leave me just because I like girls (and boys).... I guess in the end, my question is as simple as, what should I do? (link)
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If they don't support you they aren't real friends. If they don't stand by you they don't deserve you. I would start to explain being bi and sexuality. Maybe say one of your friends came out and talk about how happy you are for them and how you are supporting them since you should love who you love! Remember being gay (or loving people of the same gender) are more natural! It's actually more normal to get along with the same people. If she let's get religion come over her friendship she doesn't deserve you
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Hi. I am 22/F. I've been in an abusive relationship for 3 years of which I have a 2y old daughter of whom I have full custody. I broke up with my ex a month ago. I moved back to my mother, but I've started talking to my best friend(also my ex's best friend) and we just clicked. It's difficult to live with my mother because I am not used to it seeing that I lived with my ex for so long. And we also get along better if we don't see each other often. So I want to move in with him, but how do I tell my mom I am moving in with my ex's friend?
My mom is a difficult person and gets offended easily. I am scared to tell her because I do not want to disappoint her, but I really want to move. Please help? (link)
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hey! I understand times like this can be hard, but you need to understand. You are 22, your not exactly 9 anymore. Maybe just talk to her? After all, you are her child and her job as a parent is to be approachable. I don't know her personally but just talk. Explain you will visit, then tell her the reasoning and that you think you're ready to move on in life. You are in your golden years at the moment, you only get 1 life so just talk. If she says no she is obviously toxic, at the end of the day your parents should only do what's best
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