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How to shorten thank you letter to the police?


Question Posted Tuesday October 27 2020, 2:28 pm

I wrote the cops a long (8 page) thank you letter after they stopped me from suicide.

I’m embarrassed to send it because it’s long, quirky, and informal.

It’s a huge deal to me to be treated well by the cops. The police department has helped my family many times also. I want them to know how grateful I am. I want their superiors to know what a great job they did.

I can’t decide what I should take out, or if I should just send it and have them be glad it’s a thank you letter, not a lawsuit like they usually get.


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DrStephanie answered Sunday April 25 2021, 5:01 pm:
Keep your eight page letter. Use it as a reference, even a keepsake, for later on. But don't send it, its way too long and probably way to personal. Instead, pick out a lovely thank you card, write a brief message inside of appreciation and thanks, and send this instead. I'm sure they'll be happy to receive it. Very thoughtful of you. Good wishes,~ Dr. Stephanie

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Dragonflymagic answered Sunday November 1 2020, 1:37 pm:
In a time where there are immoral, bad cops on the force everywhere, it is important for police departments to hear good stuff about specific officers. If the time ever came to get rid of those who are bad, including racist, killing without need to, it is good for your good report to be in there.

If you have the names of the ooficers, mention their names. If not mention in your letter the date, time and place this happened so credit can go to the guys who actually came out to help.

Reading what you wrote here, it seems the huge deals are saving your life and how the department has helped your family many times and all your encounters with them hsa veen good. I agree it is important to thank them as we tend to hear too much about the bad cops out there so something good is needed to balance out things. I think you can do it in one page. You don't have to go into great detail. Just start first with thanking them for saving your life, and maybe refer to the place and time but all your reasons for wanting to commit suicide though important, don't need to be in the letter. Right after that you mention to them what you told us, that it is a huge deal to you to be treated well by the cops. If it is due to race, you could mention that, "helped me regardless that I am black, young, homeless, ..." whatever applies. Then you mention that they have not only been helpful and kind this time but several times in the part with your family. You can list all those events briefly such as, a neighbor doing something bad to your family, what that disturbance was, police stopping a family member to question them for whatever reason, in the wrong place and mistaken identity, a driving infraction, etc. Again after that list of the past you were all treated well, thank them from the bottom of your heart and you are done.

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solidadvice4teens answered Thursday October 29 2020, 5:55 pm:
I think what you should do is take the points you want to make to your psychiatrist or counselor and/or lawyer and have them draft a letter to the police on your behalf thanking them for turning your life around and preventing suicide.

There's nothing to be embarassed about in thanking them but they may be weary of an 8 page letter especially if it rambles because quite often a rambling letter from a person with the issues you had and they intervened on may make them think you're still not stable. Anything written can be used by people to gauge your thought process.

Also, if you have been charged or have a recent case or hospitalization they initiated it's best that a doctor, lawyer or counselor write a letter on your behalf because they know what to include and what not to talk about and what your treatment and their involvement was. There's a lot you may not be aware of as having occurred if in mental health crisis.

Having them write the letter thanking them highlighting milestones and points you want to make is the best way to go because it carries a ton of weight coming from an expert on your health and situation. Nobody can misinterprit it or pass judgment that way.

Your intentions are pure but this must not come across as overly long or without clear focus. An 8 page letter can do more harm than good especially if it's quirky, odd or anything they can possibly twist to mean not well. If dealing with the police let the docs do it.

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AaronAgassi answered Wednesday October 28 2020, 9:50 am:
I offer to copy edit your letter for you.

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