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Vibrator: I’m of a legal Drinking age and I’m to shy to go into a sex shop Take 2
I’ll start by saying that I am of a legal drinking age. But I’ve never done ANYTHING sexually. Other then with my own hand. So this is embarrassing please be nice. With that being said I want a vibrator but I’m embarrassed to go in to an adult store and say I want a vibrator. I know I could order one but I don’t want one of parents getting it. Because sometimes they don’t pay attention to who’s stuff they are opening. Should I just ask my mom for help or just buck up and go get one? Like if your a mom would you want your daughter coming to you asking for a vibrator or would you rather not know? If you would say to ask her how would I even bring it up? If your wondering my mom is pretty cool but I know when my sister told her how many partners she’s had my mom did not want to know. I also know my mom has vibrators.
Sorry it’s so long!! Please help though!!!
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Well, let me add this. The girls in the shop are trained to make all customers feel at ease. They know that some customers are embarrassed. And they will know that you are a new customer. I think you'll only feel uncomfortable for a little while. I think it is great that you want to try a vibrator. I am sure you won't be disappointed.
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It's perfectly normal to feel like this, as you get older things like this won't bother you. If you don't feel comfortable purchasing exotic things yet- you can always try sites like Adam and Eve or Amazon for sex toys. The sex shops by your place might even have websites to purchase stuff as well.
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Masturbation is normal and practically everyone does it. Your mom likely suspects you do it. It's pretty much universal with teens. There really doesn't need to be embarrassment.
It's obvious your mom does it and you've noticed these toys. While talking about it may seem difficult it probably won't be. Perhaps you can write her a note that you are curious about these things but too embarassed to talk about it or purchase yourself. I'm sure she will be understanding and not make it an embarrassing thing.
People who run adult stores know that many people are nervous and don't want to ask for certain items. However, they are very knowledgeable and will make you comfortable if you ask questions. To them it's just normal conservation and no judgment. Try talking to a female employee. I would talk to your mom first and see how that goes.
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Im a Mom and I told my daughters once they reached puberty if they ever wanted their own vibrator, to let me know. None of them ever asked. Maybe they were too embarassed. The problem with asking a Mom who isn't open minded like me, is that in some churches, or in families, you are raised being told that masturbating is wrong, evil in fact. It is not. It is a very good way to take care of your needs when too young to have a partner, or until you do have a partner. Being wayyy older now, I have had talks with other women , most of whom did not get a sex toy ever, still too emabarrassed to go into such a shop, and others who didn't get over their embarrassment until they were married of after having given birth to a kid. It does become more natural feeling and a lot less embarrassing as you get older. I didn't get sex toys until in my thirties and I was married at 20. SO there is no problem with your not having one.
The basics of toys is either something that can be inserted, a dildo, or a vibrator only or something that does both. I can only suggest a vibrator for the clit, using the battery operated toothbrush. I have used all sorts of toys from sex shops but they do not hold up for long, and fall apart. I have found that the brush, with its bristles work as well if not better than a toy with what they called 'the butterfly' at the end that vibrated a piece of rubber shaped kinda like a butterfly and its quick vibration when held against the clit will help you have orgasms easily. I use one now too or hubby uses it on me. Use lube but otherwise, you hold it as lightly against you as you wish and the bristles don't hurt but help you start to feel what you are after. Anyone could be buying a toothbrush to brush their teeth cus the last brush died. No one would even think you were getting it to use as a sex toy. The only issue is there is usually just one speed, maybe two if you find one like that, I haven't. And toys in shops can come in other speeds. But I have found the lower speeds did nothing to arouse, so I've stuck with the strongest one always and believe it or not, the toothbrushes one speed if definitely enouh.
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