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I'm a very negative person I immediately give up on things because they look impossible. Please, can you help me?
hi! I'm from Philippines. I'm an IT college student, but I don't know what to do in the future. Lately, I'm not attending any classes since I'm confused since I cannot focus on my class. It seems that I'm not qualified on the course and I'm weak at studying, I don't even understand a thing. I always felt like an idiot because I don't have any talent or a unique mind. it does seem I don't have a brain because when I try to listen on something and rethink it again, I can't remember anything so I fail in my exams. I always felt empty and lazy since I don't have any idea what I'm going to do if I graduate. I want to go to Japan and live there. Right now I'm studying their language because I want to be a translator but it looks impossible since I'm not very good at English(and my letter looks like I don't know.) please help me, I'm a very negative person I immediately give up on things because it looks impossible.
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Stress is very detrimental to your ability to think and learn. So if you're stressed, you'll have a much harder time learning and making decisions. So try to find ways to relax, exercise, meditation, go for a walk, get more sleep. You're not alone in not knowing exactly what to do after graduating, so don't stress over it.
Thinking negatively is a habit. I do that myself when things are going bad. Depending on your state of mind, thoughts will come to you that match how you feel and it'll be easier to entertain those thoughts and the more negative you feel, the more negative thoughts will come your way. Happy people find things to appreciate and that makes them feel good. Once you are in a state of appreciation, its easier to accept positive thoughts than negative thoughts. If you are in a negative state, you will attract and entertain more negative thoughts.
I tend to give up on things too unless I like them. Even if I like and WANT to do those things for the end benefit. But I'll get discouraged when I see how terrible I am. My friend said "the first step is to be terrible." And its true. Everything you're good at now, you were just a beginner at one point and probably terrible. So, be easy on yourself and let yourself be a beginner when you are trying new things. I took a semester of japanese in college and it was actually pretty easy. Maybe you should take a class if you're just learning on your own and having a hard time with it. or if you are taking a class, its probably the stress/anxiety that is keeping you from learning properly. Stress/anxiety causes your brain to go into survival mode "watch out for this, watch out for that" and being in that state doesn't let the part of your brain that is in charge of growth and learning to function as well as it should.
Classical music might also help you relax and concentrate.
There's guided meditations on youtube you can try. There's a kundalini meditation that I like, its about 30 min. Meditation helps calm you can helps put things in perspective or lets you see things from another perspective. Our minds are our worst enemies sometimes and its good to get away from it. I'm sure it'll help with mental clarity as well and negativity. But like anything, you GOTTA do it. Like exercise, like finding ways to relax. You gotta make the effort. Otherwise things will probably not change on their own.
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I can't say why you feel like this but one possible cause may be the electro magnetic fields for cell phone signals and wi fi. I have noticed proof read books having errors, buildboards and advertisements with mistakes, and so on. It has increased and gotten worse each year. Then I heard this Ted Talk I am giving link to. Even I am affected and noticing how I can't retain something I just heard recently. This information makes sense. Its not just your own cell usage but being near any cell , being surrounded by people who have their own wi fi internet connections. Heres the link and if you believe this may be the reason, you may need to change where you live to not be near cell towers, and how much usage of anything that uses electro magnetic wavces.
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Sounds like once and a while you need to take a step back, and do new things. I think you should take some time to exercise (and I know this sounds like it has nothing to do with it- but for some people, it really helps— you know how exercise increases blood flow to the brain? Get those smarts on), remember to eat healthy, but also take time to do your studying so you don’t feel so unprepared or feel unworthy!! If you are truly passionate and want to get better at language, you can do it- it just takes a lot of work for it to get easier.
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