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What about my gender?
Thank you for reading my question.
I am just confused and will like some help on gender identity. Here we go….
I have been assigned the gender of a girl, but I don't always feel that way. Before you start to think "Transgender?", let me get to a point.
For example, one day I feel feminine. I look in the mirror and I absolutely love my body. But the next day I look in the mirror and I hate it so much. (Wait, I'm not done yet.) Then the day after that, I look in the mirror and I don't really care. As in, I don't feel feminine or even masculine. That was just an example. Each feeling could last a few days at the most.
Sometimes, and this just makes it more confusing, I want to wear makeup while wearing a tomboy outfit. Or even the other way around. I want to wear a dress, but no makeup.
This might seem like normal, but I am just very confused on my gender. I think I have one, but sometimes I feel like I don't. But I know that I'm not agender. Please help me.
Thank you so very much.
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I tend to think that people with such concerns over gender, imagine that one way or another, gender is a solution to some other problem. What might that be for you?
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As the other advice person mentioned, there is always gender fluid which is feeling you are both, changing back and forth between all three feelings.
I read a similar question sometime earlier this year and asked a gal whos in the LGBtq Community about the previous question and she said it sounded like gender fluid.
When it comes to gender identification or sexual orientation, there are so many possibilities that there are a heck of a lot of variations. You don't have to have a title to call it, just explain to friends as clearly as you did here and if they are really friends, or even family, they will still love you for you, not because you have a definite orientation to announce to them.
Then there always my take on it because for me, at very brief moments in my life, I have had the sensation of feeling like a man for just that brief moment and its gone but it is very clear to me and not something I have imagined each time it happens. It so happens I believe in past lives. So if you don't, thats okay, don't mean to offend, just show you how having a theory and believing it enough can take away any unpeace you have of the situation. I have had dreams that I was a male out dating a female and kissing her, and I know I am not gay or transgender but I will have variations of that, I will come to a sudden realization that I was standing or posing like a man just as I did it. All I can think of is from stories of those who died and came back, their stories of souls, is that souls have a preference for one sex over the other but will occasionally choose to be born as the other sex for the experiences that may be easier to learn as that sex. I also had re-occuring dream that was always the same. I was in the house I grew up in, but it was my house and my family and kids I was protecting from marauders trying to gain access at the back door which would not longer fit the frame so it could be locked. I had a brawny male body, I was a strong fighter/protector and finally when I could no longer hold the door in place against them, I finally let them come in but I grabbed one at a time and killed them all by snapping their necks, as if they were twigs. Then I'd wake up feeling guilty for I didn't like the idea of killing people so It disturbed me so I;d hate those dreams. It wasn't until I was told that I was probably a male in past life and had the job of protecting the village inhabitants from ruffians and killers along with a few other strong warrior type men. Yes I could see that and I came to peace with these dreams, realising I was not the one attacking others, but defending and for that reason, I was justified and killing so we weren't killed. I can't explain how such real scenerio as this came to be but that when I finally came to peace, believing that I was possibly a male at some point in the past, the dreams finally disappeared for good and I have had one in 15 years now. I am saying, it could be something else for you but something you want to believe the possibility of it being true and that might help you. I feel that perhaps, if what I believe is possible, then a soul who was the opposite sex from the current one you're born with could be one explanation for soul feeling they are the other sex at times, or all the time as it is a recent experience, in the previous life rather than many lifetimes ago as I believe is the case for me as I don't feel like a male but for seconds, and not very often. I just wish for you to be at peace and accept yourself as what ever you want to call yourself if gender fluid is not quite right, or perhaps another version of it. Come up with what works for you. Someone in the past came up with the terms we use today. Maybe ID fluid, meaning sometimes you identify as female, male or neither.
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If this is something that is really bothering you, I suggest trying to explore what you think it means be feminine and masculine, and research more about gender identity yourself. Girls can still act masculine and guys can still act feminine- which is different from gender preference. Some days I feel the same way- like I don’t feel like a certain gender- but I don’t think gender is always something you feel you own AT ALL TIMES. Although, most of the time (and this is just me but still) when I feel like this it’s because I’m feeling down a bit that day, or don’t like my appearance 100 percent. If you feel bad about your appearance it could be lack of self esteem. And ever hear of gender-fluid?
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