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I'm graduating high school but I dont know what to do because of my parents
So this is my last year of high school and I'm not scared for it but I am scared of becoming an adult. I have super controlling parents that are really strict. I do hate my life a lot and I know a lot of people think that's just so typical of teenagers but I don't know. A lot of times I don't feel loved but alone. My dad acts like he loves me but he gets mad over the little things and yells. I feel emotionally abused and I don't know what to do. I want to enjoy my life when I am 18 but I don't have my papers such as social security, birth certificate,etc. I am scared to ask for the papers, and I know they won't let me move out because they're religious. I used to joke about it to my mom and she got so mad and told me never to joke about stupid stuff like that. I just want to enjoy my teenage years but they're all gone, I don't even go to school dances because my parents wouldn't allow me to hang out outside of our house, they allow me to bring my friend over but nothing else. I never experienced the high school life. I want to enjoy my life because I can't regain the 17 years I've missed. I don't even have money to move out, I am so impatient though I really need help and I don't know what to do when I graduate, I know I can't wait any longer and stay. Please help and give me good advice.
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Everything adviceman said, I agree with. The practicality of where to live and how to earn money is probably the hurdle freaking you out most. Start asking around, maybe of the friends you know who are going out of state to college have parents who know you well enough and would let you stay in the vacant bedroom. There's always renting a room from someone you don't know but that could be dangerous. I would suggest talking to your pastor for help but since your parents are so bad, it might actually be the church they attend. I've been in some very strict and crazy churches in the past. If you don't mind church, for now, try to find one on your own or soon after you turn 18 or graduate. My own daughter who wanted to be independent asap after turning 18, had been attending a different church for about a year and was in choir there so everyone knew her. She asked the pastor to help her find out if a member might have a room she could stay in and rent for real cheap. An older woman agreed and she went to live there. You do have to ask around for help like this of other adults than your parents and asking those you know you can trust is a good choice.
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On the day of your 18th birthday you become a legal adult. Your parents can no longer legally tell you what to do or when to do things. OF course what they hold over you is the fact that you do not have the financial means to move out there for the old rule of; "You live under my roof you live by my rules"
The papers you speak of are yours to have and to hold especially you Social Security Card. There is no need to fight with your parents over these items as legal copies or replacements are easily gotten. Go online to SS.GOV to request a replacement Social Security Card. For your birth certificate contact Bureau of vital records for the state you where born in. A replacement copy can be obtained for a small fee.
Things that change when you turn 18.
1. Legally your parents can not open your mail or withhold it from you. To do so is a Federal Offence.
2. Your parents have no legal right to your medical records. Written permission to your doctors is required for parents to view or discuss your medical well being.
3. Your parents cannot make a medical appointment for you or force you to see a doctor for any reason.
4. You can legally remove a parents name from any joint bank account.
5. You have free will. Meaning you come and go as you please without curfew. Have a boyfriend to any extent you are comfortable with in a relationship,
6. you can apply for financial aid for any college of your choosing.
Your parents responsibility to you.
Legally once you turn 18 your parents are no longer responsible to feed, cloth or house you or your medical well being.
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