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Do I give a gift or let on valentine's day rest.
I am 17 and in high school. My boyfriends mom is in the hospital and valentine's day and his birthday are coming up. With high hospital bills and little money I don't want to put him in an awkward position if he doesn't get me anything even though I want to get him something. What do I do.
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If your mom was in the hospital, would you honestly have your mind set only on what would happen for your valentines day and what your sweetie might get you? The best way to know what to do is to use your imagination and place yourself in the other persons situation. I know I wouldn't be feeling festive or really care if we did anything for Valentines day. But I might like to know that my sweetie cares enough about me and how I am feeling with a parent in the hospital and it would be even more meaningful if he asked to come along to visit my mom and bring a get well card. Aside from that, it would mean a lot for him to at least say the following if not put it in a blank card where we can write our own words: With your mom in the hospital, I am sure that your Birthday and valentines day may feel as if they get kicked aside because they are not as important. I want to let you know they are important to me and once your Mom is feeling better, I'd like it if we would do something special together to enjoy celebrating a belated valentines/birthday for you.
That would be meaningful to me and worth waiting for. So all you'd have to decide is how to put that in your own words and whether to use a generic blank card or simply say the words to him.
You know that due to life events that mess up things, sometimes a holiday or birthday or other significant event can't be celebrated on the specific day assigned to it. I just went out to dinner with my husband last night because he works Valentines night. It didn't make it any less special.
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Tell him now that you understand his situation and that its alright that he doesn't get you anything. Its kind of important that you do it now, so he is not stressing about it.
I don't know if it would be a good idea to give him a valentines day gift. He might feel compelled to get you something. Or feel bad that he couldn't get you anything. I don't think guys really care for valentines day. So I don't think he'll really care if you don't get him anything. Spending some nice time together would be enough.
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There is an old saying it is always better to give then to get.
Go ahead and get him something for both events and get his mom some flowers as well on Valentines day as that would be a nice gesture on your part.
When you give him his Valentines present and if he doesn't have one for you and says "I don't have one for you." Just say you know things are tight for him and you weren't expecting anything but you wanted to get him something to mark the occasion.
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