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Should I take my daughter up on this unusual offer?
My 12 year old son acquired a pair of police issue handcuffs as a Christmas present from his uncle (who works at a security supply store). I don't know what gave him the idea (maybe he saw a clip from an old sitcom online?), but he persuaded his 10 year old sister to spend a day cuffed to him. I didn't protest as they were both willing and I figured they'd both be sick of it within a couple hours. But I was wrong. They remained cuffed until bedtime, having a blast the entire time and without complaining once.
My oldest daughter (age 15) was as bemused by this as I was. When she was challenged by her little sister to try it before knocking it, she agreed to spend a day cuffed to her the following weekend. They asked me to hold the key and to not let them have it until the next morning, as they intended to try and last 24 hours together.
Unbelievably, they made it through the night and seemed to have enjoyed the experience. They even agreed to do it again sometime.
When I asked my oldest to explain the appeal of this to me, she said it was hard to explain. She guessed that it was because you really have to pay attention to the person who's attached to you and thus it's a real bonding experience, no pun intended.
She then said if I really wanted to understand, then the two of us should spend a day cuffed together sometime. I laughed at the time, but now I find myself considering the offer more and more, to the point of contemplating how we'd handle the bathroom issue and where we'd sleep if she wants to spend a full 24 hours together. Am I crazy for wanting to give this a shot? If it helps me bond with my daughter, what could it hurt?
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I guess one of you could be blindfolded or something when you go to the toilet.... If it's just at home why not?could be good for you and her
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Bonding is always good. Using cuffs with two siblings who are same sex so bathroom issue is no problem sounds good to me. But there must be other ways to bond. If it is simply to learn what life is like in the other persons shoes, one can go along with the other to do whatever hobby they like, and there is a 'bring kids to work day' official somewhere on the calendar. I don't see why you must wait for that. Clear it with the boss. Bring daughter to work with you one day, uncuffed and you go to HS with her one day. I only caution finding something else to use other than handcuffs. Handcuffs have two ideas associated with them, a bad person caught due to a crime and the other when used in BDSM. You could cause a lot of complaints and even investigations into the family to make sure that you as a Dad are not cuffing daughter to yourself as a form of punishment or some odd type of Daddy-daughter dom thing. I realize you can explain this to people who stare or ask but I would be afraid of people not hearing the explanation and calling authorities on you. I have a possible alternative.
It would have to be something you make. Still using the idea of having wrists linked together, try the hardware stores multi use stretch cord with the hook at either end. Bend hook closer together so it can not easily slip back off when linked around a bracelet of some other kind of stretch cord or it doesnt have to stretch. The stretch also makes it more comfortable than the hard jerk against your arm if lets say when walking you trip and the other doesn't. The metal cuff around my wrist I know would hurt. A handcuff with use of a key makes it look like she's kept a prisoner but cord tho it gets an odd look or two, most people will realize some special challenge is going on between you two. That way, its easy to slip ones end off and go to the bathroom alone and reattach as soon as they come out. When two people are sleeping and in dream state, one does not remember nor have to do any considerations of the other so sleeping linked together is not necessary and if the word got out that you did do so, I'll bet CPS may make a visit to your home and it doesnt matter if wife/mom gives permission and is okay with it. SO I recommend an alternative to handcuffs and at bedtime, the thing ends and if one wants to make up for the sleep time, then link up the next day again.
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I'm some what in favor of the idea with certain limitations. The bathroom situation needs to be agreed upon that privacy is required for each of you. I would suggest that and anchor point be placed out side the bathroom that the person not using the bathroom can be cuffed too while the other uses the bathroom. IN this manner the free will of the one is still restricted to the will of other.
The bonding experience ends at bed time. There is no way you and your 15 year old daughter should share a bed. I trust nothing would happen it is the appearance of things should some how word got out you and your 15 year old daughter shared a bed for a night. That is how you explain it to her as well. That's all it would take for someone to say something to child protective services and your children could be taken away from you.
I like the bonding idea to bad you could not do it on a business day where she cam to work with you and then you go to school with her. I think it would be an eye opening experience for both of you if it could be arranged.
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