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How do I tell him I can't help him anymore?
So I met this guy on facebook yesterday.
He told me that he is poor and needs a better job but every job requires him to be fluent in English. His home language is Hindi and he isn't good in English. I had to guess what he was saying a few times.
He asked me to help him with his English through voice calls so he can get a better job. I told him I won't be much help and I am just a student in grade 9! He then acted all sad and said everyone says that to him and he was crying, he also told me that if I don't help him I won't sleep comfortably and I will dream about him asking me for help. That freaked me out so much and I felt really bad for him I said I would help him.
I realize now what a horrible mistake I did. I won't be much help. I am not good in English either and I don't know how to teach, I never taught before!!
How do I tell him I can't help him? He said he tried using apps but it didn't help and he is too poor to attend classes so he was looking for someone to help him through Facebook.
So like we will be calling everyday and I have to teach him through the call!
When I told him I would help him, he was so grateful I don't know how to break this to him! Help me please!!!
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Generally, when someone contacts you on Facebook wanting help of some kind, they are up to no good. I am not sure if he's the same age but most contacts I get are all from other countries, or someone 'borrows the photos on the net of some guy in military uniform and puts it in there. I twice went along with chatting for a while to see what they were up to. Even though they wrote in English they used terms and words we don't use in English. I am mostly asked if I want to date them, a total stranger. See the thing some not so on the level people do is work first on reeling in females with befriending or saying they are in love to tug at your heart strings and then later ask if you would as a friend send money to help them out. They dont just target one person but as many as they want at the same time, cus not all will fall for it. It's like they assume everyone is rich. I certainly am not. But if you are still living with your parents, the new ploy may be to not target older females who know better and never accept the friendship but to go after teen girls in hopes she'd do anything for a so called friend or boyfriend in supposed trouble and to steal the money from parents to send to some con artist whether living in this country or another. Do not feel bad about it. If he is supposedly wanting to learn English and in the U.S. , our country offers tons of classes to immigrants settling in ours and it doesn't matter how poor they are, our country throws all sorts of services for free or low cost at immigrants. So no matter if he is a kid or an adult, he can get the help he needs. So that is just a line he is feeding you, hoping to sucker you in.
You wrote "I have to teach him through the call!"
Says who? Where is there a law that forces you to help teach people English on the internet? You don't have to do anything you don't want to do. "Have to" means an obligation you can't get out of, that you are perhaps forced to do due to laws forcing you to do so. You may feel obligated to help because you promised to help him. That does not mean that you in a moment of weakness or not knowing any better has to keep a promise to someone who is basically feeding you a line full of BS. Trust me, males who target females for whatever in Facebook should not be trusted. Even when I have said that if they write me again I will contact Facebook because they are not supposed to be doing this, they will beg and plead and ignore and talk around my saying I was going to block them. They would say anything to keep me talking. I delete them and then they may create another profile and try to sucker you again. You need to report them then to Facebook. He may not say he is the same person, he may not be but if the story is exactly the same, and these FB con-artists are real stupid and use the same type of photos or brand new profiles, less than a year or same 'woe is me' stories, then you need to take steps to get this to stop. As I said, give Facebook the info, name, etc on the person who is bugging you, then block them and let facebook know you've done that. If you have something like this happen again and you need an answer on the spot but no one here may see it soon enough, you might want to tell your parents and maybe they will report the guy if you feel strange about doing it.
Good luck.
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Dear How Do I Tell Him,
Sweetheart, it sounds like you have already told him that you cannot help him and he made you feel guilty. Not only did he make you feel guilty, he played on your emotions and tried getting in your head using psychological terrorism.
He has already manipulated you. That is a very large RED FLAG.
There are tons of free ways to learn English on the internet. If he has Facebook access, he can access free ways to learn English. In fact, here is a link to one.
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My advice to you is have no more contact with this person. Unfriend him, block him and tell your parents about him. Even call the police and have him investigated. There is no telling how many other 9 year old girls he could be manipulating right now.
Please be careful about who you talk to on the internet. It is the easiest way to get someone like you to meet them, and next thing you know, you are being sold to some strange man for his carnal pleasures.
I hope you do the smart thing and cut him off now, then report his odd and manipulative behavior to the authorities.
Best Wishes,
Gigglz
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I have a bad feeling about this. I feel he is not what he says he is. That he may be a pedophile who will eventually ask you to meet him after his English improves. There are many places he can go to learn English as a second language without charge he does not need a ninth grader to teach him.
First thing you do is tell your parents and let them answer the phone when he calls. If they are not home when he calls just tell him you can't help him and hang up. Do not listen to him, Just say you can't help him and hang up. If he calls back let the call go to voice mail or just do not answer it.
If you have caller ID make note of the phone number and give it to your parents. I recommend a police report be made so they can check him out. I'm sure once the police contact him one of two things will happen. He will stop calling you or he will be arrested.
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