So i just wanted to know how do you know if youre a lightweight when drinking? Because today i drank 3 small glasses of champagne, 3 shots of vodka mixed with soda and one shot of vodka alone. Then i had a sip of this vex alcohol drink,then another sip and then got myself a bottle of it but i still feel the same? (maybe a little tipsy but barely) but i did eat before drinking, so did my friends and we all drank water but somehow after the 4th shot of vodka they were drunk as heck. They became more sociable, one of my friends went through all the stages from being loud to crying to throwing up you name it she did it. Meanwhile i felt as introverted as i did when i got there so does that mean im not a lightweight or that i mightve not drank as much as them? Thanke in advance if you answer
Dear How Do You Know,
Lightweight is a relative term. It is often used when describing someone who cannot have very much alcohol without getting drunk. A person's blood type, blood pH levels and regular consumption habits have a lot to do with tolerance levels.
It is different for everyone. Compared to your drunk friend, you are not a lightweight. However, compared to some Massholes I have known, you would be considered a lightweight.
See where this is going?
So do not worry about it. Drink in moderation and know your limits. You are fine as long as you do not go over board when you drink.
I wish you the best.
Sincerely,
Gigglz
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Hello. I am a teacher and this past year, I worked at a terrible school! I was paid very little and could barely survive (I didn't even have enough money for groceries). So, my co-worker told me about how she was making ends meet. I applied and was hired as an online part-time english teacher teaching children in China to read. I am so incredibly grateful for this opportunity. I make about an extra $1000 a month. This past year, it has paid for my groceries, my electric bill, and my phone. It has been a real blessing. Over the summer, I had no job and I was not getting paid from the school I was at last year. So, I've continued to work for this company through the summer. The only problem is that we only get paid once a month. Therefore, it's been a little bit of a struggle.
This coming school year, I got a job at a much better school! I don't have to worry about next summer, because I get paid. I've been able to purchase a small home and I just feel a lot better and more independent. However, this summer, I have found the job to be incredibly difficult. The classes are only 25 minutes long. However, I could barely concentrate. Sometimes, the children just don't pay attention. They are usually at home on their ipads, laying in bed. They don't focus. Many times, they scream really loud. I don't know why they do that. But, they do! Then, because there's the pressure to finish the class in 25 minutes, I just feel really frustrated.
I need to keep this job during the coming school year, because honestly, now that I have a mortgage, I need the extra income. But, during the school year, I don't book as many classes. I usually just do 2 classes early in the morning and I'm finished. But, this summer has been exceptionally brutal, since I do 4-5 classes in a row.
My question is:
- Why do you think that it is so difficult? I teach a class of 22 students on a daily basis. So, why is this 1-1 25 min. class so difficult? If I could discover the reason for this, than maybe I can try to figure out a solution to make it easier on me?
Dear My Side job,
It sounds to me like your life is changing. You have more bills now. Your schedule has changed and you are required to do more in a shorted period of time. This can be stressful until you get into a routine. This means you need to be more prepared for your classes and step up your game.
You may need to spend more time preparing for your classes to make the most of the shorter periods. Kids scream and act unruly because they are stressed out too. It is summer, and they want to be at home. They want to be there as much as you do. So try something different, entertaining and fun.
Research teaching methods that are fun for you and the kids. Maybe spend that 25 minutes entertaining them with knowledge and then give them a packet of work to do at home. I am not a teacher, but I have homeschooling experience and I find that making it entertaining and fun keeps my children focused and motivated.
Remember, you are there for them. This is not about you. I know that sounds harsh, but it is the reality of the situation. You chose to be a teacher for a reason. Maybe it is time evaluate your reasons and take a look at why you started teaching in the first place.
Teachers have one of the most stressful jobs. There is a lot put on you to get these kids educated. So step it up and make it happen. Get up earlier and spend more time preparing at home so you do not have to deal with it in class. That class time should be about motivating them to get their work done. They can do that work at home.
I hope that some of what I said helps motivate you to find better ways to deal with your situation. Remember to stay positive and show your students you care about them. Get creative.
Let me know how it goes. You can email me anytime. I wish you the best of luck.
Sincerely,
Gigglz
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Hi 18/F .. I had intercourse with my bf. We used a condom, but he looked a bit unhandy with it. It was about 2 days after my ovulation. And I still have a week untill my next period. I have pain near my kidneys but I didn't notice any change in my breasts. It's been a week since we had intercourse and I know it's too early for a test, but it's driving me crazy. Please help me..
Dear Really Stressed,
It is unlikely that your kidney pain is a sign of pregnancy. If you were pregnant, it would be a few weeks before you saw any changes like tender breast. Having kidney pain is most often the result of Musculoskeletal problems. It is possible that you pulled a muscle during sex, or during some other physical activity.
Your kidney pains could just be growing pains. After all, you are only 18 years old. Your body is still growing. It could also be the affects of something you ate.
Here is a helpful link that will tell you more about some of the common causes of kidney pain, and if the pain you are feeling is even your kidneys.
http://share.upmc.com/2015/04/why-do-my-kidneys-hurt/
Driving yourself crazy with the possibility of being pregnant is not doing you any good. You can psych yourself out and cause your period to be late. Yes, that can happen. Sometimes our own minds can be the cause of unnecessary stress. The best thing to do is not worry until you are about 3 weeks to a month late on your period.
That is when you should start thinking you are pregnant. You still have a week and it is possible that the stress of thinking you could be pregnant may cause you to be a week or two late. So it is important not to stress yourself out until you are sure that you are pregnant. Three to four weeks is the general rule.
It can be hard not to think about it, and maybe you should focus on other things that could cause your kidneys to hurt. I have been pregnant 3 times and never had kidney pain during any of my pregnancies. However, everyone is different.
Continue to use protection during intercourse and if you feel your boyfriend is mishandling the condoms, then maybe it is time to start looking into forms of birth-control that you can use on yourself.
Good luck and let me know what you find out. you can email me anytime.
Sincerely,
Gigglz
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So... I recently found this thing online, a kink called ddlg. If you're not familiar with it, it's short for daddy dom little girl. Of course, this isn't actual incest or pedophilia. If you need any more information, some quick googling will give you a good answer. I think I might be kind of into this. I love when my boyfriend tells me what to do, when he "punishes" me during sex, and when he calls me kitten, doll, baby girl, or other names like that. I like acting child-like with him, and he likes when I dress like a kid, like when I wear cat ears. He takes care of me, in a way, like he reminds me to do my homework and makes sure I'm responsible. I'm sure this isn't the best description. I'm wondering if I should bring this up to him. We're very open about sex and everything else, and I feel weird not talking to him about this. It doesn't seem like a serious thing to me, but I do want to know his opinion of it. I don't want us to actively participate in this kink, I'm very happy with our sexual relationship, but it feels weird not to know where he stands on this. I would really like him to know that it's a turn on for me to somewhat act out the child-like part of this kink, but I'm afraid to tell him. So, basically... do you think I should bring this up to my boyfriend? Would it be easier to maybe send him a link about the ddlg thing, or just to explain my particular interests to begin with and not mention the ddlg kink at all? I'm afraid either way he'll think it's odd that I want to be treated like a kid at times. I don't expect this kink to take over our lives and I don't want it to, so in a way I feel like I'm making too big of a deal of this. Should I tell him and how should I tell him?
Dear Should I Tell,
Yes, tell him what you like. The best sex is always when your partner knows how to please you. I think he will be open to it, since he already does these things with you.
I find the best way to tell my husband what I like is during sex, I come right out and say, "I love it when you do this." Or I guide him into doing it and then tell him, "I love that. Do it some more."
Telling him what you like is not a crime and promotes honest communication. Those are two keys to a healthy relationship.
I think everything will work out great for you. Good luck! Let me know how it goes. You can email me anytime.
Best wishes,
Gigglz
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First thing, I'm not attempting to lose my belly fat for anyone. I've always been quite insecure with my "over-sized" belly pooch, so I feel if I could do things to flatten it a little more that I'd be more secure in my own body. :)
Basically, it's just to feel better about myself && look && feel more healthier! :D
So far I've been eating healthier. I've completely cut out all junk, fast && processed foods && all sodas/diet sodas. I don't eat white bread anymore, instead I eat multi-grain. I drink only milk, cranberry juice and water.
I workout a lot, but have a rest day after every workout day. I mostly do it because it greatly helps my depression (&& yes, I do do treatment and have found my miracle pill).
The thing is... I can't run. I've tried, but with the medications I take... running && those medications heat me up far too much && I usually end up passing out.
I do walk everyday, but is there any other ways I can lose my pooch and be healthier?
Thanks in advance!! :'D
Dear Is It Possible,
The answer is YES!
In my experience, eating for my blood type causes the fat to melt off without increasing activity levels.
I was a runner, it never helped get rid of body fat. It ruined my knees and caused my disability.
So running is not the key. The key is not eating foods that inhibit your metabolic rate.
It sounds like you have started on the right path with cutting out processed foods and all that junk. However, it is my experience that you should eat foods that have been scientifically proven to increase or maintain a healthy metabolic rate.
In my experience, milk will help you keep that belly. Also, if the cranberry juice is incompatible with your blood type, the belly fat is there to stay. If the ingredients in the cranberry juice that are metabolic inhibitors, like natural flavoring or from concentrate, the belly fat will stay right where it is at.
Here is link.
http://www.dadamo.com/txt/index.pl?1001
This link is important. You must know your blood type and use the information to get rid of that belly. It works like a charm to cure depression too. I know this works because I was diagnosed in 1999 with severe manic depression and was a whopping 420lbs. I changed my diet with this information, and as a result, I lost 180lbs and my depression vanished.
I lost 10lbs a month without increasing my activity levels at all. If it worked for me, it can work for you. Know your type though, or it will do you no good.
I challenge you to eat for your blood type for at least 2 months and let me know how you are doing.
You can email me anytime. I wish you the best of luck and look forward to your updates.
Sincerely,
Gigglz
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So I met this guy on facebook yesterday.
He told me that he is poor and needs a better job but every job requires him to be fluent in English. His home language is Hindi and he isn't good in English. I had to guess what he was saying a few times.
He asked me to help him with his English through voice calls so he can get a better job. I told him I won't be much help and I am just a student in grade 9! He then acted all sad and said everyone says that to him and he was crying, he also told me that if I don't help him I won't sleep comfortably and I will dream about him asking me for help. That freaked me out so much and I felt really bad for him I said I would help him.
I realize now what a horrible mistake I did. I won't be much help. I am not good in English either and I don't know how to teach, I never taught before!!
How do I tell him I can't help him? He said he tried using apps but it didn't help and he is too poor to attend classes so he was looking for someone to help him through Facebook.
So like we will be calling everyday and I have to teach him through the call!
When I told him I would help him, he was so grateful I don't know how to break this to him! Help me please!!!
Dear How Do I Tell Him,
Sweetheart, it sounds like you have already told him that you cannot help him and he made you feel guilty. Not only did he make you feel guilty, he played on your emotions and tried getting in your head using psychological terrorism.
He has already manipulated you. That is a very large RED FLAG.
There are tons of free ways to learn English on the internet. If he has Facebook access, he can access free ways to learn English. In fact, here is a link to one.
http://www.usalearns.org/
My advice to you is have no more contact with this person. Unfriend him, block him and tell your parents about him. Even call the police and have him investigated. There is no telling how many other 9 year old girls he could be manipulating right now.
Please be careful about who you talk to on the internet. It is the easiest way to get someone like you to meet them, and next thing you know, you are being sold to some strange man for his carnal pleasures.
I hope you do the smart thing and cut him off now, then report his odd and manipulative behavior to the authorities.
Best Wishes,
Gigglz
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Which are better to work at?
Dear Clothing Stores or Grocery Stores,
This is a question of opinion. In my experience, working in retail clothing stores is way better. I am not talking Walmart either. Look for jobs in clothing stores that are not a grocery store clothing combination.
Every job has its ups and downs. However, in my opinion, clothing stores are more personal. People love it when someone pays attention to them, helps them and focuses on them. It is easier to make someone feel important while you help them shop for an outfit.
Working at a grocery store is so impersonal. Most of the time you are stocking shelves or stuck at a register. When a person goes grocery shopping, most of the time they do not need help deciding what food to buy.
Another perk to clothing retail could be commissions and tips too. I have worked for clothing retailers that demand a certain sales goal every month. When you meet these sales goals, you get bonus checks in addition to your paycheck. You will never see a grocery store give bonuses for meeting a sales goal.
I love retail clothing jobs. The last one I had was still sending me bonus checks on sales I had made for a year after I had quit. I had fun at that job, but I have fun at most of the jobs I have had.
It is all in what you make of it.
Good luck!
Best Wishes,
Gigglz
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Hello, I am 22, female and dating a 24 year old male. He and I have been together for a little over two years now so it's safe to say I know quite a bit about him as does he, though you can't really time stamp that kind of thing. However, I know that he can get into moods, very similar to me on my period so we pretty much know what we need to do when the other gets like that. I'm an open book so I'll cry to him about getting sad over a television commercial or something when I'm on my period, whereas him, not so much.
So, this past week he's been in a funk, he hasn't been talking much, he's been getting irritated at very small things....we were out yesterday to a local park for an event and he wanted to bring his dog but his dog had to be home by a certain time to take his seizure medicine, on our way to the event, there was a very large accident which caused all of the main route to be shut down so it tripled our time of getting there so he was just worried that the accident wouldn't be cleaned up in time so he timed it that if it weren't we would still have time to get his dog home. My parents were telling he and I what their plans were for the night and that kind of thing as we were leaving and he was just getting so frustrated that "nobody was helping him get home by 6" he felt like everyone was against him in getting his dog home so he face walked all the way to the car, I walked normally and then he got irritated with me in the car that I was walking too slowly, therefore I wasn't helping him complete his task of getting home in time either. So, I know I shouldn't have, but I got angry and I yelled that he's been in a mood all week, what is his issue. He still wouldn't tell me.
Meanwhile, this same time last week, I was asking him what his problems were and telling him that I would be there for him and he literally said "geez, get off my case, would you?" I got so hurt that I stopped caring, I didn't want to talk to him, I didn't want to even know what was making him that way anymore. So, like i said again, I asked him and he still didn't tell me so when we got back to his house, he asked if I was just going to wait outside and then we could do what we had planned which was to grab dinner and a couple drinks but I was just so, hurt I guess you could say, that I told him I was walking back to my house and that he can just stay at his house that night. He had texted me a couple hours later, ensuring my safety and then he asked if he could come over so we could talk about what happened. I told him no because I just wasn't in the mood to get yelled at again.
When he gets in these moods, he says things that he would either regret or things that I know he doesn't mean - like his brain thought was before his mouth and that's when he yelled at me to get off his case because he said he felt like I was "interrogating him" and he felt "extremely overwhelmed". But then I told him that I don't like that when he gets in these moods, he takes it out on everyone so he'll just be short and very sassy to my mom and I do not appreciate anyone talking to my mom in a negative tone so I brought that up to him too like "hey, i know you wanted to get lucky home and my mom didn't know that you were on such a time restraint, she just wanted to let you know they were going to a concert and that we would have the house to ourselves until really late" because all while she was talking to him, he was sighing and giving one word answers and looking very unenthused. She cooks extra dinner for him every night, she lets him take showers at my house when he needs to, she is just the last person that he needs to be giving attitude to, when I made it abundantly clear that no matter how bad my mood is or how bad I feel, I would never disrespect his mom and his response was "yeah, well you aren't at my house half as much as I'm at yours".
So, it's the next day - we had gotten invited to go see a Grateful Dead cover band, something that he was excited to do before this whole thing went down, so I texted him to remind him, I'm really still not in the mood to see him yet but we are together and I thought that if I saw him, we could just talk and get everything out, I don't know. But he texted me back that he was going to pass, he was out hiking with his dog, something that we used to do with both of our dogs together.
I know it isn't a lot and I know I'm painting him out to be this awful person but he really isn't, he gets in these moods not as frequently as I do (my period, mostly). He is very sweet 97% of the time, for our two year anniversary, he planned us a whole trip to Niagara Falls and then we continued to road trip all the way through Canada. For my birthday, he wrote me this whole big letter about all the things he loves about me. When my car battery died, he jumped me and even took me to four different places so I could price match batteries and then even drove me all the way back to the first store because it wound up being the cheapest. He has never, ever hit me, never even got anywhere close to it or anything similar. We just have big arguments that last for a few days and then everything is fine after we talk about it. But lately, I've just been thinking he is dealing with something and he isn't telling me. My mom said she really believes that he has a mild form of anxiety, she'd had it for about 30 years so she really is keen on that kind of thing. His mom even said to my mom after we got back from Canada that she is shocked he drove the entire way because she really thought that his "anxious thoughts" would cause him to not want to drive further anymore. I just need help so I know how to help but I'm not even sure how I can help him if he won't ever talk to me about anything. I just feel so stuck. Please don't just tell me to leave him, I know that I get into moods that turn me into a raging bitch sometimes and he has dealt with every single one of my tantrums and yelling matches about things so I just want to be there for him and see if there's anything I can do.
Thank you.
Dear Anxiety or Depression,
Anxiety can make us all go crazy sometimes, and leads to depression and that out of control feeling. In my experience, anxiety is often caused by stress. Stress comes in all shapes and sizes, but it is how we deal with stress that can leave us with a bad taste in our relationships.
The first thing I would do is look at how you deal with stress. Yelling at each other is not the answer and it is not how you are supposed to treat the ones you love.
I used to be like this. I have been there and done that. It ruined my life in so many ways until I learned how to change things that affected my ability to handle stress.
The next thing I suggest is looking at your diets. Foods have a way of creating an imbalance in our brain chemistry. This can cloud our ability to handle and manage our moods. Look at the ingredients in the foods you are consuming and check for things like polysorbate 80, vitamin A palmitate and even sugar.
There are so many foods that affect moods I cannot list them all. The food industry has been corrupted and our food sources are clogging our judgements and our abilities to cope with life.
Visit this site, know your blood type and change your diets. That is the first step to being able to handle stress and control your moods. If either of you are depressed, which happens when you have problems with moods that cause you to yell, changing your diet will help as well.
http://www.dadamo.com/txt/index.pl?1001
The next step is to be aware enough that when you get into a mood, you can choose not to let it control you. Stop, take a breath and tell yourself you will be all right. Remind yourself that when you get into a mood, and feel like yelling, you are hurting yourself and others.
I challenge you and your boyfriend to eat for your blood types for at least the next 2 months. If you are serious about helping him, then you will do this with him. Both of you need to heal from the things that have already happened, that starts with a change of diet and a change in awareness.
If the moods are still present after changing your diets, then it is time to seek professional medical help for anxiety and depression. They come together.
Good luck and let me know how you are both doing. You can e-mail me anytime.
Best wishes,
Gigglz
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