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Strange Rejection !
I am a Senior in College. I had a huge crush on thia girl since i was a freshman ! After a long gap of 3 years, i confessed my love to her,since i did not want to regret it. I was a bit scared, so i first confessed everything anonymously to her. It was a platform for confessions where it remains private between 2 people. I revealed my identity after a couple of weeks. She was surprised ! I told her everything i felt about her,But it was over text. She seemed to take interest.I told her how crazy i was about her. But there was one thing. I used to get late replies. On her birthday, i played guitar for her and she loved it. I asked her that i would like to talk Somethings in private so i asked if she could meet me 20 minutes before lectures start.It was in college campus and i had no otherwise intentions. I wanted to propose. She said she would let me know after lunch. I waited till evening. Nothing ! The next day we met and were in a group of friends. She acted as if nothing ever happened.! Even i acted the same talking casually.She never even revert back for apologies that she didn't tell me when to meet.I never understood what happened ! If she wanted to reject why did she accept meeting me in the first place ?
Why did she listen to my feelings and royally dump me. She obviously could have rejected and i would have respected it. But this was insulting and weird. Help needed
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From a girl...I think she only sees you as a friend. I bet she didn't want to hurt your feelings so she kind of just said ill let you know and never replied back to you knowing she didn't want to meet up with you to lead you on. When she saw you the next day she probably didn't want it to be awkward. She didn't really "listen to your feelings and dumped you" From what I get is that you confessed your love her so she was probably taken back and flattered but didn't know about the situation. Just move on from the situation you will find someone who likes you just as much back.
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Hi. From what I have read you asked her if she would meet you and she said that she'd let you know after lunch but never got back to you? From my perspective she didn't agree to meet you in the first place so she didn't really say she would be there and then not show up. Saying she dumped you as well is an exaggeration because she can't dump someone she is not involved with.
I understand you like her and you've not told her, the best thing you can do now is wait to see if she wants to pursue this with you although I would suspect that at this point and from how she has been acting this may not be the case and she is just trying to be nice by not saying this and hurting your feelings.
I don't think she can really be blamed for anything here other than perhaps just saying she's not interested if that is the case. Some may say that perhaps she is shy about talking about things and this could be true but it is equally possible that she may just not be interested in wanting what you want. She listened to your feelings because you had chosen to tell her but whenever anyone does this there is a chance those feelings will be returned and there's a chance you will be rejected - this is something everyone who wants to love needs to know and perhaps you are also learning. It happens unfortunately.
You can try and talk to her about things if you want to and it may even be easier by text just to ask her where you and her stand in terms of how you feel and if she feels the same or not but this may even come across as being pushy. However, at the same time it would give you a definitive answer and you will know for certain where you stand. What you choose to do is up to you but just be prepared that she may not feel the same way and this is not something you can blame on her. This is just the way things are and all you can really do is get over it and move on.
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