Question Posted Saturday December 17 2016, 12:28 am
Hello, I have a friend who I made two years back, and she tried committing suicide today. From what I know she's fine but now I'm plagued by other worries. I'm afraid she isn't stable and I've let her quite a lot into my life. She's told me things like that she's had boyfriends that abused her and other stuff like that that I used to doubt were true but I just kind of ignored it. But now I'm worried that she could try something against me or to my family or something. I just feel like I was very stupid to let her into my life that much. I don't know for certain whether or not her stories are true or not but I'm genuinely scared now that I might've put my trust in someone dangerous. I feel like crying because I don't what to do. I'm even getting stomached because of the worry.
solidadvice4teens answered Saturday December 17 2016, 9:55 am: A suicidal person is NOT dangerous to you in any way. They also do not want to cause danger to you or your family at all.
Why would she want to say or do anything against you or your family especially if she has never been like that? A mentally ill person has to have a violent personality in the first place which she hasn't to act out in such a manner.
What she is is depressed and or afflicted by another mental health issue. The problem is that nobody has noticed and or have noticed and not listened to her stories or took what she was feeling and saying seriously. As such she has taken to bottling things up to the point she could no longer cope. The stories are the truth. You need to open your mind and heart and be there for her 100%. If the role was reversed isn't that what you would want her to do?
It wasn't at all stupid to let her in to your life or even dangerous. She's your friend and someone with a problem that you don't understand that needs you to listen and not talk to what is going on. You aren't expected to have answers and it's okay to be afraid but do not scorn her or shun her. This is not her fault and or choice. The illness is running her life until she gets help.
You need to tell your parents what she has told you and all of the stories and about her suicide attempt and that it has you deeply concerned. You might save her life that way by having adults intervene to get her the help she really needs. That's your responsibility to her and being a friend. A friend is one of the first and fundamental things she needs to know she has. There is ZERO reason to think she's dangerous or untrustworthy. This is not a character flaw. She's who she always was to you but with an issue you know little about. [ solidadvice4teens's advice column | Ask solidadvice4teens A Question ]
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