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Dating
How do I convince a guy I'm not to young for him?
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Never sabotage yourself by behaving immature and foolish. He is ashamed and anxious. A reasonable and serious demeanor is best starting point in order to put him better at ease so that he can warm up to you. He will then succumb to your charms soon enough. Caring for one another, warts and all, comes just as naturally.
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How does anyone convince another person on any matter? More information to base their final decision on. Take a car salesman wanting to make a sale but the folks have decides maybe they aren't interested in that car. He will share all the optiobs with them, its got this and that and....
But in the end, no one can force a person to really chabge their mind even on an age difference if their mind is set.
Age differences of just a couple years when young are to my experience, about the same as an age differece of 10 years or more when talking about two consenting adults of legal age.
The thing you may not realize is that no matter how mature you may be, all teens have a body that matures faster than the brain. The last part of the brain to finish growing to maturity is the pre-frontal cortex, the part of brain that largely is responsible for better decision making, ability to not be judgemental, able to figure out whehter there may be consequences to any decision and able to see a situation a couple steps ahead before it happens. It may not seem significant but this part of brain isn't done until the mid 20s which if you are a teen, can seem like a long way off.
I know its sad when out of two people, one falls for the other and the other doesnt have any kind of feelings or interest in the other. Whats more miserable is forcing oneself upon a person or them thinking they wanted you only to change their mind in a few short weeks, months or even a years time and try to live life with someone who doesnt love you the way you want to be loved. A person can say they may love you but even that is up for questioning. There are people who use that word too casually, saying I love pizza, I love chocolate and I love you. If the depth of their love is like that, it isn't the one you will end up enjoying. ITs when someone can say and knows they are 'in love' with you and if its true, they will back up those words consistently by their actions towards you. My first marriage, I was told he loved me but he didnt consistently treat me so. It was an abusive marriage. At the end when seeing a counselor and he was asked if he was in love with me. He said no, he never had been, but he loved me as the mother of his kids. Well, that explained alot.
I hope you do eventually find true love dear. But a reluctant boyfriend, lover or husband just isn't satisfying in the long run.
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Sorry I misread your question. It would still help to know your ages. If for instance there is a large age difference, say 10 or more years, it will be harder to convince him that you are not to young for him
I would think it would be simple enough to just say, "I like you but I'm too young for you and we cannot see each other anymore."
Without more information on the difference in your ages that is the best I can offer.
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