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My dad caught me mastrubating.
I was thinking in the bathroom with my vagina under the bathtub faucet, all of the sudden my dad opens the door and walks in and walks out, I'm pretty sure he saw me! He hasn't said anything about it, but its only been an hour, I'm hiding in my bedroom trying not to die from embarrassment! There is no way I'm going to question him about it! What do I do? I'm so afraid he's going to mention it or tell my mom, help!
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katerinatomov said. THEEREFORE, masturbating is so normal. Im not sure how old you are, but honestly EVERYONE DOES IT. I think just ignore it. He will forget about it. He probably didn't even think anything of it like oops what did I just walk into my daughter doing. Next time I suggest doing something like that when no one is home. Pleasuring yourself is SO normal. And trust me hes not going to say anything to your mom that's even embarrassing for him to say. I say just forget about it, Try not to dwell on it. It happens. And whatever Katerinatomy said was very immature, Don't just "go" and have sex with someone. No offence but im sure your dad masturbates its human nature so, don't dwell on it. You just know better for next time :) it will be forgotten about trust me. xoxo
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No offense love, but masturbating is actually pretty depressing. If you want to 'feel good' that badly, actually go have sex with someone instead of pleasuring yourself all alone in your bathtub. My advice personally is to ignore temptation + wait until marriage, but masturbating is just sad.
-Katerina
PS: If you're so worried he's going to tell your mom, maybe you shouldn't masturbate! You shouldn't do things you're afraid of. X
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First of all you have nothing to be embarrassed about as masturbation is normal, natural and something about 85% of the world population does; including your parents. If anyone is embarrassed it is probably your dad for walking in and seeing his daughter naked. I'm sure he is aware he embarrassed you not so much for catching you masturbating but for seeing you naked. I'm just as sure he is trying to figure out how to apologize to you without further embarrassing you.
Yes as parent we tell our children masturbating or playing with yourself is wrong, or a sin even though we know it isn't and we know it is normal and natural. We do so as masturbation because we know it gives you relief from sexual tension. We know puberty causes sexual tension. The fact that masturbating gives you relief and is so very pleasant we fear you will want the real thing. Parents of girls have the biggest fear when it comes to sex ass it is their child who could get pregnant.
While we are aware no one has ever gotten pregnant from masturbating. We know from firsthand experience at your age what masturbating may have led to and we want to keep you from going down that road if at all possible.
I don't think dad will say anything to you. If anything mom may want to have a talk with you. She may tell you how wrong it is to masturbate or she may go in the direction of telling you she understands why you masturbate and urge you to keep this activity to a singular activity. Not to let a boy finger you this is called mutual masturbation as he would want you to do the same for him in what’s called a hand job.
It is this activity that can cause you to lose control and go further than you want to especially if you have love feelings for the boy. Understand one thing about boys you age. Their interpretation of love and yours are much different. Yours is a truer definition off the word where theirs is more the definition of lust. To be blunt they are horny and they want sex. They will tell you whatever you want to hear to get into your pants.
Part of high school is to experience many different social opportunities and with that different boyfriends. In fact the friends you have today will not be your friends after you all separate and go off to different colleges. In college you will meet different people. People who have more of the same interests you are developing. Some of you will meet and marry. Others will meet and marry after college.
I tell you all this for two reasons. First because I have no idea what if anything your parents will say to you. Whatever they say just listen to them and agree. I seriously doubt they would punish you. If they do just accept it and move on; continue to masturbate as it is a healthy and safe way to relieve sexual tension. Just remember to lock the bathroom door or bedroom door when you do.
Second I feel you should know about the other things I write about as most parents will not have this type of discussion with their daughters. Don't let anyone pressure you into having sex. No is no if they continue to pressure you it is sexual harassment.
One last thing: Any boy that says something along the lines of; "If you love me you will have sex with me." This boy does not love you he lusts for you and does not respect you. So not have sex with him for when you do he will leave you and find another girl to have sex with to put another notch on is belt.
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I doubt he will talk to you about it for the same reasons you wouldn't want to. It's really something that wouldn't shock him or most parents. This activity is pretty much universal with both sexes at this age and adults know this and suspect it.
It's normal and healthy whether you do it or not. It may seem embarrassing now but it's really not a big deal in the end. Trust me, you're not the first girl or boy that has had this issue. I would shrug it off and go about business as usual. I wouldn't hide from him or anyone else either.
If he did raise the issue it would likely be to apologize and tell you it's fine and ask you to be sure you lock a door or do this when you have privacy. I guess the lesson in all of this is to make sure you have full privacy to avoid this happening again. You'll survive this.
Even if he did mention it to your mom it wouldn't bother her any as she knows it's normal and would reinforce that and being private. They were both your age once and get it. Adults, teens, children all ages statistically do this or will at some point in life with the stats being pretty much universal on that. There's no need to have any hangups about something practically everyone does but doesn't openly acknowledge doing. You're fine and can relax. Believe me there are worst things you could be doing than this for either to be worried about.
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