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My employer talking to one of his buddies about me not showing up for work
I was on my way to work this morning and I got sick and before I had time to get home and call in , my employer called a man that he knew which also happens to know my parents and told the man that I hadn't shown up for work and hadn't called in and he ask the man if he could call my parents and tell them i have yet to show up for work and that I had not called in either and that he was going to write me up if they did not get a hold of me and I did not call him. Is this legal for him to tell a man I do not even know about me not coming in and telling him about writting me up and also asking this man to get a hold of my parents and tell them all of this?
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You'd have to talk to a lawyer to see if there are laws against this. But my opinion is that regardless, his actions were tactless, rude, and in very bad manners.
I realize that average people will talk about their employers and co workers especially things that stand out, funny stuff, or when there are problems and issues. But usually its just to vent and no names are shared. If a person knows who you work for, then to vent, people can say theres a person they know who did this and that and not relate it to work. It's all about keeping people anonymous and protecting the innocent and also the not so innocent (as in its the job of the law and courts to take care of the not innocent, not yourself) At least, this was embarrassing for him to talk to others, mention your name, and ask another person how to get in contact with your parents.
I am guessing that this particular employer has hired young people before who truly stretched the limits of what was acceptable at work and he's had to fire several and now carries a suspicious feeling about ALL young people. NOt saying that gives him the right to do what he did, but it certainly might explain it. Unless there are written rules that in ALL cases of becoming ill, you must give them so many hours notice by phone before your shift starts, then such a situation is going to be kind of all over the place, some getting sick right after arriving at work or sometime in the morning (happened to me), on the way to work, or while still at home. You have no control over when your body is going to give you the signs it is seriously ill so he is being unreasonable. NOw lets say this was a fast food job and if one is missing and it is extra busy at the time period of you being expected, it is a hardship on the rest of crew to cover all positions but this thing happens all the time and they don't want you working while ill so the sooner they know, the sooner they can call someone to come in and cover your shift. But if this is something like an office job, it may be hard but jobs and tasks can be left to be done the next day or most important ones covered by coworkers. I've worked both types of jobs and I have been ill not often, but enough to have a memory of the history of that. I would ask the parents what they think you should do. If you were very new, not long hired, and the employer didn't have a trackable history of how dependable you are, then you might want to just have a private chat with him. YOu may be younger or in a lower position than he but you don't have to be a door mat and allow people to continue to treat you so in the future once you bring it to their attention, but in a nice way with tact. As long as you are innocent and do not have a track record of missing work alot and not calling in, then you could say:
Hey boss, I'd like to talk to you about the day I got sick on the way to work. I learned how you got antsy while waiting to hear from me and couldn't wait any longer and decided to contact a person who knew my parents to get their number to call them about me and threaten writing me up. I may be young, but I feel I still reserve respect and to not feel belittled or embarassed which is how I felt by what was said, done and insinuated. But I quickly want to say that I can't totally blame you either as you likely have had several flakey employees in the past and so you don't trust new ones so easily. I have worked here so long (give time) and perhaps that is not enough time for you to get to really know me as an employee and have a memory of my track record. If I put myself in your shoes, I might have been concerned too, just may not have gone that far. I want to let you know that you can trust me in the future to call ASAP. (IF you dont carry a cell) I do not have a cell phone so thats why you didnt get a call while I was enroute, but I promise to call and speak to you or leave a message asap. If there is ever any question concerning me or my actions, I prefer that you call and leave your name on my home phone and ask me to call you as soon as I get the message and not leave details as to what it is about. I know that as time goes by, I'll be able to prove myself a trustworthy employee to you and you won't be going through this kind of worry again. All I ask is to be treated with common courtesy in the future and you and I can put this episode in the past and forget about it.
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