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My crush
My friend told my crush that I like him. What should i do?
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Be confident and excited. Now that he knows, the opportunity to get to know him and maybe turn things into more than friend. Be exactly who you are. if he likes you,. you want him to like you for you. You are worth it.
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Are you afraid of him acting on this info and approaching you? And what do you do then?
If so, you need to decide what you want to do. If you have a crush on him, and he approaches to ask if its true, there's likely a chance he's extremely curious or a little interested in getting to know you better to see if he feels the same romance towards you. If a guy wasn't interested, he probably wouldn't approach to talk about it because that might encourage the girl to think he does like her when he is not interested. So either you admit you have admired him but were too shy to ask him out or you deny it and remain lonely. Let him think it was all a prank your friend played on you by saying that to him when it wasn't true.
Or you could say, I don't know where she got that idea but now that we're talking, I realize that I do have enough interest to want to spend more time hangin out with you to see if we have lots in common. That might be best. You won't feel as embarrassed, not having to admit to a crush and by saying you'd like to hang out with him, thats a sign to him that you are at least a little interested in him and it exudes a trait called confidence which males find attractive in females. If he doesn't approach you at all, then there is nothing you need to do but just act the same as you always have when around him. By acting embarrassed and not being able to meet his eyes or smiling if thats what you always did, then you attract attention for acting different right after she told him and that could confirm to him that it was the truth.
In the long run, I don't think you'd be happy with the story ending of 'never finding out if he might have made a good boyfriend'. You'll wonder the rest of your life, be sad, mad at yourself, feeling like you are your own worst enemy by restricting yourself so much with fear. I know I was self conscious, shy and lacked self confidence as a teen, more so than my peers who struggled with the same. I just had it worse. So I know how scary it is. But when you face your fears, they tend to run away, disappear right as you get into the middle of doing that which you used to fear. Truth be told, lots of guys even if they seem confident on the outside, are really scared to ask a girl out or flirt or show they are interested especially when young, in teens or college. They fear being rejected and sometimes think the girl is so pretty and that they aren't handsome enough so that girl is out of his league and they won't even try. These days, its normal for females to make the first move. I rather prefer that myself as a female. After a divorce, I set my boundaries and met guys and let them know upfront what I was looking for, what was acceptable and the guys seemed to become even more interested in me, cus this comes across as self confidence. If anything comes up later as a repercussion of your friends action and you want to talk about it, let me know. But i can only help better if you can recall pretty acurately what actions were done and what you or your friend or this guy said. Good luck.
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Just act natural, don't be nervous or embarrassed, he knows now, that's great, at least there's no secrets.
Try talking to him, but talk normally like you did before he knew you liked him.
That's great news!
Let me know if he need more advice!
-DanSkittles13
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