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aint nobody got time for this, i need some help. thanks
My ex crush keeps smirking at me ... like this morning, he smirked at me and gave me a respectable head nod as I was headed to my office... why????
i no longer like him because I found out he has a fiancée and has been engaged for 3yrs..he told me he was single..he lied bluntly to my face.....I stopped all the chit chats and the walks etc....I totally backed off. he knows I cant have him and he cant have me.....and if he was to mess with me he'd be cheating.....so I was thinkin him smirkin and staring at me aint nothing good....I think he has something up his sleeve...and it aint nothing good...his behavior is odd, im thinkin he may try and rape me....cuz the way he has been actin is very odd........what do u all think any advice? thanks
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Hey calm down, it is a big jump to go from a smirk to Rape in a single jump. Most men are not rapist and doubt he is.
As for the smirk, trust me he is just being an ass. He probably knows you found out he is a liar and a potential if not an actual cheater on fiancé. The smirk is he ego saying to you something to the effect; "You don't know what you're missing kid."
Once again trust me your not missing a thing. Guys like him have egos bigger than they are able to support with any type of action. They are in general narcissistic asses who believe they are gods gift to women.
IF you really want to put him in his put him in his place. When he smirks at you again smile back at him and hold your thumb and pinky about and inch apart. HE will get the message.
My best advice though is to ignore him.
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First all of, you're letting your thoughts run away with you, out of control. All you have is the smirking and the next thought is he might try to rape you? Don't worry, you're not weird. Most people get distorted thoughts every day. Its just that some of us pay too much attention to them or instead of a few, we get swamped in negative distorted thoughts and that is when we need to think of correcting that. There is a way. If this is the case for you (mind you, I'm just guessing) then let me know, I'll let you know what it is, and how you can correct it.
I am thinking that your personality must be a very caring, nurturing, loving person who is sensitive, have intuition, law abiding, always doing the right thing kind of person. Sometimes people like this can due to their caring, sensitive side, leave themselves open to fearing the worst of everything cus all they want is to be treated as well as they treat others. Instead of not letting things get to us, we stew over it, and our mind takes over and we get too emotionally over involved. Does this sound remotely like you? I've been there so I hope I am reading you correctly. If not, I may need other info. But based on how I see your situation out of my own experiences, he already knows how to push your emotional buttons and pull your strings and is smirking get to be mean and get a reaction out of you. And it worked! You are worried now and concerned and imagining the worst. I for one am glad you're no longer with him if he is this nasty of a creature. Its one thing he lied and cheated with you, but to attempt to needle you now that you're keeping your distance is rotten.
Your morals tell you to not get involved with a man who is engaged to someone else. I guess he was hoping you were one of the woman who didn't give a crap and enjoyed being the lady on the side. He isn't worth losing your peace over. I am sure you are hurt as well as still suffering from the emotional ties your heart still has with him so you have feelings yet. Let time heal that. Those feelings will eventually die away as time goes on. The memories remain tho.
I don't know the guy and what he is capable of. If you think he may stalk you to attempt to seduce you anyhow and attempt to rape you if you didn't comply, then make sure to not go where he goes, keep a lookout and be aware of your surroundings at all times and not let yourself be alone whenever you see him up ahead out in public. If you are that afraid and fear he may try something more than a smirk, then ask the person nearest to you as you're walking to pretend they are a friend or boyfriend cus theres a man up ahead who has treated you badly and you are afraid of him. Thats all a person needs to hear to come to your aid and play along. Most people are willing to help as long as they know he's not a killer. In fact, if you have any male neighbors, other male co workers, a male cousin he doesn't know, and you have a stuation where you must run into him daily such as at school or at work or live in same building, make sure some male is willing to hang around with you and make it appear to him as if there is a replacement for him in your life, a protector. It won't be worth his trouble to keep pestering you if he believes there is another male in your life, whether just as friends, or a boyfriend. Good luck dear.
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Ignore him.
He's being an ass and trying to get your attention. If you really fear sexual violence, then you speak to someone in your workplace, either Human Resources of your manager, but from what you've described in this question rape doesn't seem like an immediate risk.
If all it is is smirking, ignore it. He's looking for attention.
If he graduates to speaking to you, or touching you, tell him to stop and get someone at your workplace involved to tell him he must stop.
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