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How to keep a girl intrested online?
(Homosexual dating)
I've been talking to this girl I met online since last week. I never met anyone online or that held my interest until I met her, I have many women like my profile yet she stood out the most. Online dating is new to me, I perfer to meet women offline but I haven't gotten any luck with that and I hardly go out. Anyways, I wasn't sure what to write to her. I just said "Hello, How are you doing?" I just thought hey give it a shot. And suddenly after introducing ourselves and tell her that I never dated a women before it's my first time. We started flirting and teasing one another to the point that we began sexting each other.
She seem very interested in me yet I felt like I was being used because how quickly we both went into sex without even getting to really know each other only reading each others profile.
I don't know if we will be a good match because we have our differences however so far she was the one that made the first move and asked me why I am intrested in her.
Two days ago I hardly talked to her I couldn't get her off my mind but I was waiting for her make the move. I thought she disappeared or was avoiding me.
It bugged me because I been lead on too many times that I am done with playing the game. I'm going to be honest and bold show people who I really am and don't hold back because I had my heart broken many times.
I never really talk about sexual things to anyone so easily if they weren't interested. I'm blunt so excuse me if I offend you.
and she said
Dear i am sorry if i upset you honesty. I didn't mean to offend you, I really enjoy chatting with you and getting to know you. I was not playing...so much...I guess thats how I am.
This week was super busy with work and commuting. So i have not been chatty so much. I apologize I would never want to hurt your feelings. I loved starting to get to know you and also had alot of fun flirting with you. I hope you don't mind that."
I told her I really appreciate her honesty and i enjoy our conversations too and hope to continue them. I told she can contact me anytime.
She complimented me saying that I am sweet and cool. I told her it'll give me time to adjust to talking to her cause I thought she was playing me but now i just want to take this civil and friendly to hopefully something.
I'm wondering do you think she's still interested?
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I am wondering the same as Rahhie, why haven't you taken this to the next level. I'm not against internet date sites, I used one. Its how i met my current husband.
You have 2 choices as to how you use a dating site. One is that you decide to allow the internet date site to be used as a tool to learn of the existance of another and within a few days, start talking on the phone.If online often with her like every day, then by time a week or two has passed, you set a date to meet at a local coffee shop. (Its no big investment meal wise if the person doenst turn out to be a good match or doesnt show.)
Or your other choice is to remain forever in the internet with her where the net is limiting as to what you can experience with her. So much has to be imagined in the mind as ones emotions get sucked into the 'play unfolding in your mind" It
is nothing more than theater of the mind until you take it into real life. Even I had a time where after 2 weeks of phone chat with a guy every night had me thinking I found Mr. Right. (this works same way for same sex dating dear) So my examples still apply.
So I met the guy at a restaurant and I was soo very dissappointed, he turned out to be nothing like what I had thought him to be by the things he said. Had no real chemistry with him at all once we talked in person. As if he was two totally different people, that differing from the person I met online. The longer you stay in the net, the less possibility there is of it every becoming a real relationship.
So my advice is to take this into the real world ASAP and that should answer any lingering questions as to whether she is someone who will work out for you or not. If she isn't willing to meet with you or fails to show up consistantly, then she has been just playing around , not serious. So if you are serious about finding someone, then the logical step is to take this to the next level.
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Maybe. We can't know anymore than you do.
The bigger question is, why haven't you taken this to the next level? Spoken on the phone, or video chatted, or met in person.
It's much, MUCH easier to judge a person's intentions when you are speaking to them face to face. Frankly, it's impossible to really get to know someone, if you are only communicating via email or text.
If what you are looking for is a real friendship, with a real possibility for a real relationship, then you need to go after that with a real person. A person who will talk to you face to face. And meet you. Not a person who is nothing more than a few photos and words on a screen.
Don't want to be lead on anymore? Then stop being a follower. Speak up for the kind of relationship you want, with the people you want relationships with.
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