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im so confused and i need some advice, thanks
So I told my crush I liked him, gave him my number and asked him 2 lunch?
he says we'll see, well a week goes by and he looks horrible, he comes to my office (we work in the same building/same floor but diff companies) and says I haven't been feeling good and I haven't forgotten about you, I just said ok...well its been another week and sometimes he will ignore me and sometimes when he sees me he teases me/picks at me and giggles....why is he acting this way, if he doesn't have not a drop of feelings for me all he had 2 say was he didn't like me or id rather us just stay friends.....why pick at me and or ignore me here and there, if you don't like me like that.....his actions are confusing...he's 35, im 31 can anyone help me out? thanks
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No matter what age, from teens to senior citizens, a guy doesnt go out of his way to pay any attention to a female he doesn't like or isn't attracted to for fear she may take him seriously and come after him. So, it's very likely he likes you. this is just level one. Guys are afraid of asking girls out sometimes because they fear the girl will take that in her mind as an instant commitment to be her boyfriend and he only knows he's interested but wants to get to know her. this holds back some guys from making the next step. Just in case this is the issue, You can pave the way for him by telling him that you have no expectations for a commitment or to be bf/ g/f yet. All you know is that you have an initial interest and would like opportunities to spend time hanging out with him, away from work so you can both get to know each other better to the point that you can know with confidence if you want to make a serious commitment to become a dating couple or just move on. If thats his only reservation to not making a step, he most likely will now. If he doesn't there may be other issues he feels badly or embarassed about and longs for a relationship but fears rejection from females because of what he is worried about. It can range from all sorts of issues, like perhaps he lives with his parents still, maybe he has physical or mental health issues, perhaps he is someone who identifies as bi-sexual, fluid gender or some other such thing where the male side of him is interested but fears a strictly heterosexual female might not be able to handle it if she found out, and the list goes on.
You might go as far as having a nice long sit down talk where no one else can hear, and ask him if he is interested in you because you are picking up messages that say he is but that he's also hesitant for some reason. Just want the answer, yes or no...no explanations for that.
If he says no. then ask him to stop doing whatever it is that makes you think he likes you. If he says yes. Then ask next if he has a reason for feeling hesistant to step ahead and spend time with you. Just another yes or no.
Whether he says yes or no, reassure him that all you want is the truth at this point and you won't pressure him to reveal what it is that makes him hesitate but that you're willing to be open minded and try not to react emotionally but wait for further explanation. If he can't bring himself to tell you what it is, kindly tell him you'll only wait so long for him to trust you to tell his secret that he feels might affect you wanting to ever date him, so that you can make that decision for yourself. If he chooses not to, then at some point if you meet another guy, you may no longer be available and waiting in the wings for him to get serious.Hope this helps.
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Wow... You thirties are as sentimental as the teens :-) Listen ma'am, if I had any knowledge about blossoming love? I'd say that he's acting that way not because he doesnt like you, bit because he's experimenting. We guys absolutely HATE saying our feelings. So just go with it and see how he reacts. Honestly though? I think he likes you, if he didnt, he'd NEVER tease you, unless he's childish.
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