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Giving on Valentines Day
There's a guy I like and he always gives me stuff like food and stuff. So on Valentines I want to give him something to pay him back for the food but I don't want him to think something of it unless that's what is should go for, how would I do that?
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I'm sure there is something that the guy has been wanting that's within your budget. If not then you could make a home made thank you card, or bake something for him. You could invite him to a group movie. Perhaps he likes you as well and that is why he gives you things. You could just hang out with him on valentines day. Do something he likes doing, such as golfing or whatever he is into. You don't have to just have something that is just you and him, invite his friends and your friends. Good Luck!
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Ok first off, giving someone ANYTHING on valentines day when you dont like them "like that" is out of the question. not a good idea.
Wait until AFTER v-day then give him something if you want to "repay him" for anything.
from what your coming across to me is you want to give him something nice without making him think you like him intimately? well thats not really possible if your planning on doing it on valentines day.
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I agree, you are not making sense. You want to give him a gift cus you like him but you don't want him to know by the gift he recieves that you like him back?
Seriously? Either you like him or you don't. If you don't, then don't accept the gifts he gives you and tell him you don't feel that way about him. If you like him, the natural response is to give him some signs that you like him back, otherwise there is no purpose in giving him any gift. To give him a gift when you are just toying with him and not wanting him to know you have an interest and you prefer to deny yourself moviing fully into a relationship with him, that would be leading him on, a not nice thing to do to anyone.
From what little you write, it seems he must like to cook and is always giving you some food to try. I don't know what the 'stuff' is that he gives but you made food known so that must be the main thing. If your Mom cooked you a nice birthday dinner and bake and cake and you told her you want to pay her back for that gift in some way, either in money or a return gift, you'd hurt her feelings, it would be considered a slap in the face in my generation. A gift is a gift, it doesnt require the receiver giving something back. The only thing I know of where something is given and it is a must to carry out giving something back is when two parties have decided to barter something,like in the old days, my chicken eggs for some of your cows milk, that is called Bartering. If he did not ask you to give him something in return for receiving food from him, then it is not a barter. And you cheapen the value of his gift by doing what you propose to do. The easiest thing you can do is give a nice note card with the words inside, "I just want you to know I really appreciate all the wonderful food you bring me. P.S. I really like you.
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That end part does not make sense I'm afraid. Rephrase the question so people can help
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