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am I different? I like puppies and kittenbs but not human babies.
Well I am a girl of 23 years. I am not that old to get married, I know. But I am in a relationship and my boyfriend and his family think that it is high time to get married. Personally I I used to feel excited to marry him but as days go by I feel myself losing interest in marriage but not in him. And onething more is that I don't like to have my own baby. I like puppies kittens but not human baby..do I really have any psychological issue?
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No,you do not have a physical issue.My parents make me babysit my baby cousins and I dislike it.To calm you down,I dislike baby humans.For example,baby humans can not do anything at birth,but baby puppies and kittens can play and jump and surve in the woods on their own.Please tell your friends about me,on advicenators.com,Ask Luluohizua.You can contact me at luluohizua@yahoo.com.
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No. You are just fine. For whatever reason, reason's which can vary, some people know already at a young age that they don't ever want to have kids. I am going by how you worded it. You said babies, not children, so I don't know if you have an aversion to babies and young children but don't mind the idea of older ones. that too is another variation that I have seen too. I'll start with the first:
I know a young couple, young when I met them..I think she was 25 and he was 29, 30. Both told me they had decided to never have children. She felt that way and so did he. He didn't say too much but often when hanging out with them, on many occasions when she saw a family out with their kids, she'd shudder and say something derogatory about kids or glad she will never have any. She had to see her doctors several times over a couple years span requesting her tubes be tied before they would take her seriously and realize it was not a passing fancy.
As far as numbers of people like you, I haven't come across many but enough that I know it's just another type of way a person chooses to live their life that does not affect or harm others. The fact that their numbers aren't great enough to seem common makes them look different in perhaps an odd way, for not conforming to what society deems is normal, average.
The other is something I have heard many adults confess...that they hated the baby and young child stage but once a kid got to the intellectual stage, they loved kids just fine, had no problems and actually enjoyed them. Some people are born being a natural with, and adoring babies, and don't do as well once they become older children or teens and then find it difficult to connect or know what to do with them, whereas for others, they hate being around babies, don't have the patience for them and young kids and prefer interaction with older kids. Many of us were raised with one of each for a parent, so both stages of child growth was covered.
What I do recommend is having a talk with the boyfriend. Regardless of the fact his parents may want to be grandparents, you can not make life decisions like this based on feeling you must please others or fulfill their wishes. You need to remain true to yourself, even with the boyfriend. If both of you feel the same way, no kids ever, then no problem. If both of you believe yourself to be opposite types, meaning one likes babies--is the nurturing type while the other prefers older kids and is the intellectual type, then all bases are covered and its a matter of whether the both of you can work out some kind of compromise in the raising of a child, one handling most of young childhood, and the other, older childhood.
It may be that no matter how much you both love each other, this one thing would be a deal breaker for the continuation of the relationship.
For my 2nd marriage, I made a list of what I wanted in a guy, and what things would be a deal breaker for me. So when I met guys on a dating site, some were easy to see from the start that they did not meet my criteria at all. Doing this can save a lot of heart break later once having fallen in love and dated a long time. I knew what I wanted, stuck to my list and I found him.
No, you don't have a psycholigical issue but there's going to be lots of other issues if you don't bring the subject out into the open with your guy.
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