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why are men taught to be the “scary" gender
I'm not justifying any crimes, but it seems that when there's a video of a women beating a man for no reason, everyone cheers her on and the man doesn't really get any justice, but when a men does it more men come over and beat the shit out of him, people call him every name in the book, then the cops come over and beat the shit out of him, then his innmates in jail probably beat the shit out of him for it, the women gets all these benifits, and goes to a nice home and a support group and everything. My mom actually told me if I get lost to find a women, preferably a (rich) mother, to help me. Don't try to ask help from a man. Then again, when I got lost at the beach other then the men who came with me only women helped out, but it seems when a women breaks the law, no one really cares. When a man does it, no one heres the end of it.
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While I agree with the answer given by rainhorse68 I can be a little more direct than explaining evolution.
In much of today's society and for years before it is the women who has the responsibility of child raising. I am now old enough to be most of the questioners who write us grandfather. Till today I can hear my mother’s words, "boys do not hit girls." My question to her was always, "but mom what if a girl hits me?" Her answer, "Boys do not hit girls, boys protect girls." "Gentlemen open doors for girls and hold their chairs for them when sitting." "Gentlemen help girls on with their coats and walk on the outside of them.
Judging from what I see when my wife and are out to dinner, especially during prom season, moms are still instilling these same values in their boys. From my point of view there is nothing wrong with these values. I do have a concern with them in certain career fields such as first responders though I have seen firsthand that these values are put aside at work (the protective values beyond the instilled values of the job).
These values though I believe have made harder on women to take their rightful place in the work force. They have to work harder, be harder than a man doing the same work; this is wrong. Though as long as mothers instill the proper social values, which are as I see it needed values in their male children, it will be hard to separate the polite social values from work ethics and values; which also includes just about everything you have written about.
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This behavioural pattern of male being protective of female is wired by millions of years of evolution of mammals. And we are mammalian. However much we agree or diasgree it is going to be virtually impossible to overturn this tendency. It has its positives and negatives. For instance, women in business often have to work much harder to assert themselves and reach the highest command levels than a man. Men are wired, even here to protect and therefore assume the more dominant role.
I believe our judicial sysytem is comendable in its impartiality. Women who commit crimes are indeed prosecuted. Even here we must take care, a jury (made up of men and women) may unwittingly side with the female and be driven to show sympathy where maximum punishment is perhaps a more fitting decision. But mostly, we get it about right. Violent crimes against the person are simply more often committed by males. They are physically stronger in most cases for a start, tend to have stronger aggressive impulses (think male stags fighting to be alpha-male and win the right to breed with the female deer. The contrary will NEVER occur!). Cases of domestic violence are overwhelmingly likely to involve the male physically abusing his female partner. As far as the desire to help, women are indeed 'wired' towards compassion and have a much greater tendency to put the misfortune of others before themselves. Again, this contributes towards women finding themselves in roles where they are servers and providers. It is something that just occurs, often without question or challenge. Or any sort of active prejudice whatsoever. Male doctor-female nurse? Recently (relatively) we have moved towards a society where there is much less distinction in the roles of males and females. The playing field, as it were is far more level. But I cannot see many of the intrinsic values ever changing. We might as well claim that men should have the right to have babies! Let's pull an example out of the air. Ever wondered why wedding photographers (at least good ones!) invariably pose the female to the left of the male? In our more warlike (but not that distant!) past this was how a man walked out with his partner. It left his right hand (his sword-hand) free and uninhibited and at the ready to protect her. (ps...ther were no left-handed swordsmen, you were taught to use your right hand). You might look at some arm-in-arm couples today going about town and make a mental note of how often the left-to-right arrangement just naturally occurs without either consciously knowing why. Values (especially those which stem from behaviour imprinted on us over millions of years) go very deep and have great inertia. They change very, very slowly and can only be legislated against with partial success. We fall back on 'instinct' readily and quickly. I do not think we will ever find people cheering a scene in a movie where a guy beats and abuses a woman, and I personally think that is a good thing.
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