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so i laid down on my bf's lap and he got a boner...
how do i address him about this? do i ignore it and pretend it never happened? what was he thinking about me laying my head in his lap that turned him on?
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The same thing happened to me last night! I laid my head down on his lap and we were holding hands when I felt a heartbeat/pulse in his lap! It would stop every now and then and start again. Not sure if he was getting a boner or about to get one, but I definitely could tell SOMETHING was up. I never mentioned it and he seemed normal and tried to ignore whatever had happened- not sure if he even realized what was going on. Could you tell visibly it was a boner, or could you hear and feel the heartbeat as I did? My advice is to NOT mention it as it would make him uncomfortable.
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Hi there. Laying your head in your boyfriend's lap will be arousing for him and will give him an erection. Us guys, particulalry in our young days, do become sexually aroused (aka get a boner) much more rapidly than you ladies get wet and tingly etc!Just kissing and cuddling with a girl we like is more than enough to do it as well. It is 100 percent natural and largely unavoidable, even if he wanted to avoid it. I would not specifically question him about and ask why, or draw attention to it at all. The whole arousal (for both of you) and erection thing will take its natural course within your relationship, as and when you feel ready. Bear in mind that him getting an erection does not represent his need or right to have sex with you. That should happen only when you feel ready. And take the proper precautions re. birth control if or when you do feel ready. X
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Young males get erections (boners) in two manners. They are either voluntary or involuntary erections.
The voluntary erection is simple to explain. IT is when he is preparing to have sex. Now that sex can be intercourse with someone, he is going to masturbate or if s significant other is going to perform some type of oral or manual stimulation to him, such as an HJ or BJ.
The involuntary erections are a little harder to explain for he has no control over them. They can happen and do happen for no reason at all, This is a problem of the younger male going through puberty has. At other times it may be some form of visual stimulation such as a girl walking down the street swaying her hips or you putting your head in his lap. He may not have been thinking anything but the visual of you head in his lap caused an involuntary erection.
Have you ever noticed in school boys walking with their binders in front of them. This is because they have gotten and involuntary erection and they cannot make it go down. I read someplace that boys can get a huge number of these type erections every hour.
As the other writer said you could ignore them or if you have a good relationship where you can talk about these things then you can say something.
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My boyfriend gets a boner whenever he's around me and I notice that he tries to hide it sometimes. It's okay, it's normal and he's probably just thinking a little dirty with every physical touch you give him. For me, I like to mention it and joke around about it a little. If you guys are comfortable about it, it most likely won't do harm to mention it.
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It's 100% normal for your boyfriend to get an erection. I honestly wouldn't let it bother you.
-Hardcore-Band-Geek
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