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annoying girl I want to get rid of.
She is obsessed with the media and the life of celebrities she almost forgets to live her own, and thinks I don't know about much, just because I'm not as obsessed as her, such as Katy Perry being illuminati or whatever, I found out when I listened to dark horse backwards because of cousin. Also she's really stuck up and calls the entire group,“ buetafull, gorgeous, intelligent, amazing (her name) and other girls. She also calls me racist ALL THE TIME. For example, when this freakishly pale girl said she is Spanish,I said that's weird since most Spanish people are tan, and the annoying girl I'm writing this because of said,“what are you saying?" And I said,“nothing, just Spanish people are tan." And she responded,“don't be racist!" WTF? I wasn't saying anything bad about Spanish people, or tan people. I'm Italian, that's pretty close to Spanish. And another time I was arguing with a boy and said,“there is no difference between white and colored skin!" And she told me I was racist for saying 'colored' but I was saying something completely UNracist. OMFG WTF? She's also defensive in other areas like when I asked her why she is so into romance books, and she started saying,“don't judge me if I like romance!" And starts a fight with this one table at lunch everyday. She steals people's food, breaks their stuff, and throws it. And I'm just supprised she had the nerve to call ME racist when she shouts the N word across the room. But my friends are friends with her so If I leave her I leave the entire group. What do I do?
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Saying "Spanish people are tan" is racist because not all Spanish people are tan. There is nothing wrong with the word "coloured" though.
Anyway, it sounds as though you and this girl clash, but there is not much you can do about it if you are unwilling to leave the group. The only thing you could do is try to make some new friends, but still stay friends with your old group. That way you could spend time with your friends, but when that girl gets annoying, you could go hang out with a different group for awhile.
From Moi to you,
Miss Piggy
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I have to wonder why your friends would want to be friends with someone who is behaving this way? If I were you I would talk to some of your other friends and try to get an idea about what they think of her behavior. They may have a problem with her as well but like you they don't want to leave the group. If some of your other friends admit to having a problem then the group of you could all approach her together and tell her how you feel about her behavior. It is very important how you approach this because they may just go back to her and tell her that you are trying to start trouble. Maybe you could ask "what did you think today at lunch when so-and -so started that fight with the other table?" chances are they don't like it any more than you do. If all else fails go sit at another table, I am guessing at least one other fed up friend will join you there!
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Listen, this girl is clearly crazy. Especially if shes trying to start fights for no good reason over things that are minor and could have been totally considered just "a mis-understanding" which happens alot when two people just arent on the same page or view the world in the same way. it doesnt make it ok for her to treat you like dirt.
I will however make a couple of suggestions though:
Spanish people actually come in many forms and can have lighter looking skin or appear to be completely white. (im actually a third spanish) 5'9, thin, with what would normally be considered white skin (although i turn brown much easier in the summer ; ) hehee) so she kinda got ya there!
but i think she may be the kind of person thats constantly on the defensive with people for whatever reason. She sounds a bit self-centered and judgmental HERSELF, just in a different way.
It wont matter if your friends are also her friends, once you tell her infront of the others that your fed up with the way she treats people and talks about people around her and then leave, the others will most likely follow you in time.
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