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I'm so lost
All my friends went off to college two years ago and I stayed home and I commute to my college. I work a lot and get good grades but my social life is lame. I get so depressed when I see my friends are partying every week and I'm watching tv with my mom. I beat myself up over it but honestly nothing makes me feel lower than that feeling.
Has anyone else ever felt like this,?
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I have felt like this when some of my friends went to college away.
I think you really have to make the best out of your situation and fix whatever is bothering you.
Like adviceman said, it's up to you on how your social life will be. You are choosing to stay home and watch TV with your mom. So get out there and do other things that interest you instead if you're not happy with your social life.
Go online and look for some things around your area.
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I'm sure there is a very good reason you elected to commute to school rather than go off to a school far from home. One thing to think about while you're feeling sorry for yourself is this. When they graduate they will have upwards of $120,000 or more in student loans to repay unless their parents footed the entire bill for college. Today about 80% of college graduates are graduating deeply in debt. Of the remaining 20% most have some sort of student loans to repay.
You may have student loans to repay though by commuting and attending an in state school your debt will be or should be well less than half of theirs. While they will be struggling for the next ten to twenty years with their student loans. You could be debt free in under five if you wanted to be.
Know as far as sitting home on Friday and Saturday nights watching TV with mom. Just because you commute to school does not mean you cannot participate in campus after school activities. Even community colleges have after school activities for the students.
There is no reason you cannot join a sorority if you chose to or participate in any one of the clubs that are on or off campus. No one will seek you out you have to seek them out. As for the different clubs, look for the ones that you have an interest in. In fact sit down and make a list of things you like to do.
These things could be cooking, Art, Nature, Reading, Knitting Photography, Debating. Whatever you would find pleasurable doing as an after school activity. Then look in the school newspaper to see which of the things on your list are having meeting or outing. Go to some of the meetings. If you like what you see join the club or activity.
The nice thing about these activities or clubs is that the activity or club gives you something in common with everyone else who is there. The ice is already broken as the activity or club brings you together and gives you something in common to talk about. This is the relationship starter. From this point relationships grow. It may be coffee after the meeting, then maybe meeting on campus for lunch and then maybe a real date.
The first step though is yours. You have to put yourself in a position to meet people and you cannot do it sitting on couch watching TV with mom. I've given this advice to other who have written back to say how well it has worked. So it is really all up to you and the effort you put into your social life.
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