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i quit the dance team at church
I quit the dance team at church because I started drinking again and I didn't feel right about been on the dance team when I was drinking but my pastor asked me why quit the dance team and I told him that it was because I started at drinking again and he told me that every body makes nd that I am really talented and that I need to use my gift and don't let one mistake stop me from beng on that stage and that I was being to hard on myself for one mistake and I needed to give myself a break and not be so hard on myself but I don't want to be a hypocryt would that make a hypocrytif were to go back to being on the dance at church or did I make a mistake when I quit the dance team and being to hard on myself like pastor justin said ?
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What one church and another church approves of can vary quite widely. There are even churches that deem any kind of dancing as unholy, a sin and inppropriate for their church members to engage in on their own, let alone in church.
Does that mean one church is right and another is not? And what about the issue of drinking? If your drinking is so excessive that it affects your ability to function in life, or it affects your ability to dance, then you may need to have concern with yourself. If you're not so drunk that it affects your ability to dance, then dance and enjoy it!
Do you really think God is so concerned on all the issues and rules and beliefs that vary so much between different churches or different religions all around the world? If there was only one or two issues that were important to God, what do you suppose they might be??
I can tell you right now two words that describe God, Love and Creative. And you get confirmation of both at the beginning of the Bible. 'In the beginning, God created, the heavens and the earth" theres that word 'created' Do you know any creative people? We are made in Gods image...so we are bound to be creative too. There's the folks who created vacines for diseases, created computers and other technologies, create through music and singing, dance, theater, creating chef quality great food dishes, creating beer and wine, creating stories-writers, creating goes on and on.
Also, the bible says "For God so loved the world...." I know theres more to the verse but this is the portion where we find the word "Love".
god is love and everything he does is prompted by love. If we are created fin his image, shouldn't we be made up of Love too. If everyone loved themselves and treated themselves according, and Loved God and loved fellow human beings with the same type of Love that God has for us, then we wouldnt have the problems that we see today on the planet.
I believe GOD is most concerned about our spiritual growth just as your mom and dad were concerned about you learning certain things as you grew up. If our spiritual growth is important, do you really think God is going to kick you out of the family (of God) because you lost your temper and yelled at someone? Or drank alcohol? even Jesus created wine at a wedding. The issue isn't with drinking as some misguided parts of society may think...its more to do with wanting to remove things from our lives that they think are a temptation, instead of the individual learning to exercise some self control. Removing something or making something taboo or considered bad or evil is not going to teach u anything now, is it? Nope. For example, your parents had to teach you not to touch the oven door when mom was baking cus it was hot and could burn you. Making alcohol or cigarettes or dancing or anything considered a temptation would mean that mom and dad would've removed the oven and anything else that gets hot, out of the house so that you as a child would not be tempted to touch it. Stupid...isn't it? After a couple of times of touching a hot stove, you learned because it hurt. Some things aren't as painful so its easier to cave in to temptations to overindulge.. To overindulge means to do more of than is healthy in a normal every day life. So only you can answer if you are overindulging in alcohol or not. If you drink to relax or forget other troubles or issues, thats like putting a bandaid on a skinned knee without using an antiseptic first to kill germs. In my life, I've had a scab or two form that had pus growing underneath it and the edges of the scab got red and puffy and eventually we figured out there was an infection.
There are better ways to deal with stress in life. If you need ideas, I have got some great info to share. Just write me back on my column , not where you rate what I answered this time.
So my conclusion is the same as the last person who answered, yes you are being too hard on yourself. Even if you are overdulging. We all overindulge in something sometimes. The thing is to learn and grow. Love yourself enough to treat yourself well, and that includes getting any emotional healing needed that drinking might make you turn to. If you enjoy a little alcohol every once in a while, it has a beneficial cleansing action in your body just as vinegar does. Drinking too much over time will kill your liver will if its not functioning, will kill you.
So theres the word Love again. Love yourself dear.
And find a creative outlet. If dancing was that for you, then go back to it. Having a creative outlet is therapeutic and will help some with the stress and craziness of life.
You are lucky to have Pastor Justin, he sounds much like the youth pastor I once had, Pastor Toby. Give him a hug and thank him for believing in you and loving you as God does. Justin is doing it right.
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You are being too hard on yourself.
I don't believe in God, at all, but even I know that religion and faith don't demand people be prefect all the time. You get to make mistakes, and to try and be better in the future.
If you want to keep on drinking - and feel that isn't right to be on the church dance team - that's totally fair! It's fair to say "I think it's okay that I drink, but I'm not going to lie to the dance team about it, so I quit." That would actually be a really mature and honest way to look at it.
But if you want to live by the dance team's rules, and not drink anymore, then you are a good member of that team. Not because you are perfect, but because you believe in what they believe and are willing to keep trying and do better.
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