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How can i overcome financial debt keeping faith in Christ
I married by faith an now have a child of 11 months.My husband and me both of us are member of a ministry of Teaching Gospel 1:1. before my marriage I somehow knew that he had some debt but i had to marry him as I received revelation from God that he is the man for me. Personally i did not like him and prayed god plz change your will.But ultimately I surrendered to him and married that person. Now everyday my life is under pressure of moneylenders. Everyday I start with a heavy heart and spend maximum time in prayer. Everyday I pray that God I may see my husband safe when he comes back from office.With believe that God will open the way for us I am praying and waiting. But its almost 1 Year under pressure everyday...........I am now tired and do not know what to do. PLZ.........if anyone can guide me.......Thanks
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I come from a Christian background and was under the delusion from what I was taught at church at God is going to tell me who to marry or give direction to what job to apply for, where to live, etc... God gave us a free will, he does not take the back away from you to tell you who to marry. You have certain lesson you are here to learn in this lifetime and there are several different ways and with many different people for you to do so. So if you had not married him and chosen someone you were attracted to. Marriages like mine, a godly christian marriage where we had some initial weak attraction but did not have the chemistry in relationship or sex are all too common and end up in divorce. I stuck with him 30 years because I thought I had to rely on God to heal my marriage when the lesson I had to learn was to love myself enough to remove myself by choice from an abusive situation. He was an abuser and I only left because of a vision that I would be dead in 4 more years from the stress on my body if I didn't leave then. I could tell you more of that story and will if you feel you need to know. Just write my column. But what I am trying to say is if God wanted to teach you some things mainly through using financial difficulties, then you would have found financial difficulties no matter who you married, the love of your life who you are madly in love with or the guy youre with now. If that were the case, God wouldnt have a preference over which guy you married, the choice was yours.
Another thing to consider, since not one human on the planet is a robot under Gods control not even those in power over us, since lawmaker and leaders are humans with choices...they also like us dont always make the right choices and often it can be about greed and wanting to be on top no matter what happens economically around the world. God did not created the current economic crisis, man did by the choices he has been allowed by God to make. Other peoples choices can affect us too, hurt us even. So if its a matter of financial trouble due to loss of job for a while, then you both learn to pull in the purse strings, cut out all the extras. A person can be happy with very litte. I have lived for a while even without running water, an outhouse for a toilet, and cooking and baking on a wood stove. And I found I could be full of joy whether I was currently employed and the times I was not. True joy doesnt depend on circumstances. If however we make some bad choices financially or choosing the wrong partner to marry, there are things to learn such as when enough is enough, knowing when the lesson has been learned and you change how you spend money for example in one situation, get debts consolidated or face up to a bad choice you made in a relationship. I am sure there must be some kind of love that may have developed, or perhaps he always was in love with you but you not with him. If he is willing to be married for life...all out of his own choice to a person who loves him but is not in love with him, thats his choice. Same for you. But it isn't fair to him if he's madly in love and you arent feeling at the same level and just pretend to be because he is a good decent guy. He deserves to have a woman who is truly in love with him. If both of you are by now. great! But if you weren't then, its a good chance that in a years time, much hasn't changed.
Did you really hear from God? I am sure you do at times. I know that I did as well when I was young. I also know looking back that often I was wrong about what I thought I heard and made some mistakes. I also know that the Holy Spirit understood I wanted to hear better, after realizing I made a mistake marrying the husband--he was abusive verbally. So the Spirit gave me lots of lessons during the years of service in church. For example, during a ladys retreat at church, we were told to pray for a bit and ask God for a word or scripture to share with a sister present there. I did as told and God told me to go share with the Leader of the women, someone i was in awe of and felt I no way matched her spiritually. I was terrified. But dutifully asked God, okay, whats the word or scripture you want me to share. "Simplicity." I began to have an internal verbal battle, I cant' give her just that one word, I will look stupid, what s the rest of the sentence. I was told it was just that one word. Long story short, I got through my fear, told her the word and was shocked when she showed me what she wrote in her prayer journal that morning where God was telling her to let some things go in her life and focus only on a few cus she was over extending herself, especially in areas connected to church. So I got the confirmation that I heard correct and so did she that she heard correct too. One thing to look for is such confirmations. God gave me lesson after lesson like that until I learned to tell the difference in my head when I was hearing God or thinking I was hearing God.
The best thing you can do right now honey is instead of spending maximum time in prayer meditating and asking God for help and direction, is to ask God specifically to start training you how to really truly hear from Him. So that you trust the Holy Spirit so explicitly that if the Spirit were to ask you to do something that wasn't being preached at church or clear enough in the Bible...a gray area, but it was something important for you to do or experience as part of your spiritual growth, that you would do it because you just know that you know that you know that this is what you heard and you wish to obey and please God. Every time I asked and God told me what to do, and I said I was scared or didn't like it and want to do it, I was reminded that I didn't have to do it. I still had a choice. But whatever lessons God wanted to teach me, like a good parent wants to teach their child, will eventually come about by some other path or other situation. The Lesson of forgiveness can be learned a zillion different ways. I hope this encourages you some. You;ll have to do things right now to take care of the financial problems but to have an easier time facing whatever else is ahead in your life, I would practice working on getting better at hearing God. You must remember that he dosnt have just one rigid path you could possibly take in life, there are many ways you can go and still be in a good position to learn your life lessons. Blessings to you dear
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For the most part I agree with Zane.
I don't think god made you marry a man you didn't like. If god put you with this man it was because god felt you were a stronger person than him and could help him be a better person and get out of debt.
In a manner of speaking I feel the same way. There are a number of debt consolidators who can help you. There are also a number of frauds out there who say they can help you but can't and will only make things worse. I believe you have to be the strong one here and take this problem on and see to it that it is corrected.
I would start by going to speak with your minister or parish priest. He may know of someone within the congregation who is trustworthy who can help consolidate or liquidate this debt. Whichever is in your best interest.
Once you speak with this person and they make a manageable solution for you, follow the plan to the letter. These plans work but only if they are followed. Your husband has to learn to control his spending which means you may have to take over the finances and put him on an allowance.
My in-laws were church going people. My mother in-law handled the finances. On Friday my father in-law would hand over his pay envelope to mom and she would give him his money for the week. Then a small amount went into the cookie jar for incidentals and the rest along with her check went into the bank to pay bills. There is no reason in a marriage of faith why you cannot not handle the finances since it appears your husband may not be able to control his spending.
IT may take several years to retire the debt. Once you do if you continue to follow the budget plan that was worked out for you and bank the payment you were sending to the payment center. You will very quickly be in a very positive position financially.
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I admire your faith, But in some cases praying only goes so far.
Unfortunately, You have been dealing with this for a year. It hasn't gotten better... If you husband is deep in debt then he can try to sort out this matter by speaking with a lawyer or someone who can work with hom to help cut the debt or work out a payment plan.
The way it works, If you marry someone with debt issues it can affect the debt of both parties. You stated when you married that you did not like your husband. Why did you marry him? G!D does not change people, People change themselves. This situation can put a heavy burden on you. You married someone you dislike and are facing financial debt. Please tell your husband to make an appointment with someone who handlea debt, This may be the only real thing of helping.
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